"If I never knew you
I'd be safe but half as real
Never knowing I could feel
A love so strong and true

I'm so grateful to you
I'd have lived my whole life through
Lost forever
If I never knew you"
- Joe Secada & Shanice

There are some that say, "When you feel it, it's real." Your brain imprints everything that is considered important to you. Their smell, their favorite food, the little hair on their head that's a slightly different color from the rest of them. What makes them laugh, what's something that only you can do that no one else can take away from you. The way they shift their clothes when they're uncomfortable or not feeling confident. The way their confidence shifts when you tell them how good they look despite how they feel about themselves.

You study this person down to a T and they do the same. Although nothing is perfect and they are far from it, they are your little perfect imperfection. That person. The one you're thinking about. Yes, the one who combats your compliments with jokes so they don't have to blush. Yes, the one who listens to slow jams that makes them think of you when you're not around. Yes, the one who doesn't know how to tell you how much they love you but you can for damn sure feel it. That one, they could be your soulmate. And yet, that doesn't make them the love of your life...

If you think about it carefully, your soulmate can be someone whose soul is intertwined with your own. Someone who shares what you share in emotions, actions, hobbies, someone who is literally another version of yourself. Better yet, a missing part of yourself. Someone who knows you inside and out due to them knowing themselves. Personally, I consider that to be your soulmate. Of course, there can only be one soulmate. Two halves are a whole and you can only have one other half of yourself. Needless to say, your soulmate is supposed to be someone who completes you. The love of your life, possibly, isn't the same person.

Plot twist? Yes. The love of your life doesn't have to be your soulmate. The love of your life is supposed to compliment you. They are supposed to add on to the person you are. They are supposed to show you, no pun intended, the love of your life. These people are put in your life to be there for a lifetime. They are supposed to add, never take away from, what you currently have in your life. They have the sole purpose of being your extension. Another part of yourself. The same way you are going to include many new possessions, events and different things they have never experienced before.

If you are ever blessed with meeting and getting to know both people, do not fret over losing your soulmate. If they are not here now, they will forever be in your soul and you will forever hold a part of them within you. Granted, this did not work out. You've spent so much time with this person and getting to know them and everything about them. Trust me when I say, this was not wasted. This will not go in vain. You will take this with you onward and to the love of your life. The love of your life will appreciate that you have learned how to love yourself before loving another.

Do not lose yourself in the mist of that sadness and loneliness. For this, is not the end. For this, does not mean that everything was for naught. This... this just means that you are growing into someone more than. This pool of blue does, eventually, flow into a river of something beautiful and full of purple passion. You just have to wait for it. Wait on your soulmate. Prepare for the love of your life. All things will fall into place.