*In this article, I address men, women and society. Women can and have also pressured men for sex. The point of this article is no human being owes another human being sex. This includes the LGBTQIA community.*

You’re at the bar with your girls. You all are having a great time and you see a guy approaching you. He’s cute. He tries to compliment you, and he offers you a drink. Why not? As you actually start to converse with him, you realize he's not the nicest guy in the world. He starts to kiss you, even though you don’t want to touch him. You want to leave the bar, but that’s so rude. He bought you a drink. You have to be nice. You say you have to go but he’s making you feel guilty for wanting to leave.

“But, I bought you a drink.”

Guess what? You do not owe him anything.

You’re on a date with a guy that you’ve been talking to. He picks you up, you go out for dinner, he pays for both of your meals. You had a great time. He takes you back to his place. As you are sitting on the couch, he starts kissing you. He clearly wants to go farther than you do.

When you say no, he says, “But, I bought you dinner.”

Guess what? You do not owe him anything.

There are three problems with these situations: society, men and women.

Society: Years ago, women were forbidden to kiss a man on the first date. We are now part of the hookup generation where people rarely go on dates other than "Netflix and chill." If two people go on a date and the man pays for dinner, it can be expected that the woman owes him something. She is supposed to have sex with him. Society needs to stop with these expectations. No one ever owes anyone sex.

Men: You have the ability to pressure females. Typically, you are bigger than females, and you can be very persurasive. You should never expect sex from anyone. If you buy someone dinner or a drink, that was very nice of you. You may or may not get anything out of it. Sure, some women will sleep with you after you do these things, especially if you are in a relationship. It may be something she thinks you deserve. However, you should never pressure a woman to sleep with you because you bought her something. If you are making her feel guilty by saying, "Come on, I bought you dinner," that is unfair and is an example of sexual pressure. It is never right to use these things against a woman or any person. No one ever owes you sex.

Women: You are allowing people to treat you this way. You are letting men and society pressure you into feeling like you owe him your body. It is NEVER okay for anyone to make you feel like you are a sexual object. You should not feel pressured to have sex with a man because he bought you something. It should be because you both want to. If you want to do it, go for it. But if you don't want to, don't.

For the record, not all men are like this. In fact, many are not like this. This is a message to those who do these things. No one ever owes anyone sex. No one should be treated as a sexual object. No one should feel guilted or pressured into having sex with another human being if they are uncomfortable. This includes men, women, and the entire LBTQIA community.