You Can’t Make Someone Love You…

You Can’t Make Someone Love You…

A letter to the girl who is trying.

There is always that one boy... the one you imagine life with, smile from ear to ear any time you see them, and have definitely spent some serious time stalking on social media. This is the same boy that takes hours to respond to texts, if he responds at all, and doesn't make plans to see you. And it breaks your heart just a little more each time.

Sure you tell yourself to let it go. Your friends gently remind you that he isn’t worth your time. But something keeps you hanging on, like when he snapchats you his adorable face, or finally responds to a text and tells you you’re beautiful. When you’re together, he makes you feel like the only one in a crowded room. That little bit of hope keeps him on your mind.

You know in the back of your head that it will never turn into anything. You try to convince yourself to not let your emotions get in the way. All the signs for failure are right in front of you. But then he smiles and your heart wins over every rational thought your head has ever had.

You make up excuses for him. He couldn’t respond because his phone died. When he just waved instead of walking over to say hello he was running late for class. He canceled plans with you because he had a family emergency. Sometimes you keep what’s going on from your friends because you just can’t tell them he let you down again.

He doesn’t love you though. This boy isn’t worth your time or energy. You have so much to give and you know it. You deserve someone who gets lost looking into your eyes. The person who needs to see you and wants to spend time together. You want someone who laughs at your quirky sense of humor and the adorable way you snort when you laugh at a really funny joke. The one who holds your hand any chance he gets. You need someone who would put you first. Someone who doesn’t even think twice about lending you his jacket on a cold night or kissing you on the forehead in front of his friends.

You have all this life and love to give and you deserve a sincerely good guy. This guy that’s on your mind right now… he may be a good guy. He might half heartedly do things that make you melt inside. But maybe right now he can’t give you what you deserve.

You shouldn’t waste your time. Walk away. Stop entertaining the idea that you can change him into what you need and what you deserve. And stop letting this boy control your moods and emotions. Put the energy into yourself. Become so happy with who you are that when the right boy does come along there will be no turning back. Listen to your mom, your friends, your sister because they are right when they tell you this isn’t the one.

You can’t make someone love you and you shouldn’t try. You deserve someone who loves you with every ounce of their heart.

Cover Image Credit: Making Love Sustainable

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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