Recently, an article posted on Odyssey caught my eye, as well as many others: "I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign." It discusses how the writer feels ashamed to want to be a stay-at-home mom someday because so many girls in this generation are protesting against these traditionalist values. In my opinion, though, the author of this article is completely missing the point of what feminism stands for as a whole.

I get that the feminist movement, to the eyes of the public, has been reduced to man-hating, bra-burning women with picket signs in hand.

Yes, there are many people like that.

HOWEVER, this stereotype does not and should not apply to everyone who identifies as a feminist. Your words are setting up a false dichotomy where women can either be stay-at-home moms or hardworking businesswomen.

In the past, women were forced to play the role of homemaker. Now, in the 21st century, the whole of feminism is about giving women the right to be whoever they want. You can pursue a career or you can stay at home with your kids. The two are not mutually exclusive. That is what we, as feminists, are fighting for - to let women have a say in what they do with their life.

Another point that I got from the article was that the Bible appoints men to be the head of the family, and wives are meant to "submit" to their husbands. She also states that many girls can still break this stereotype, but maybe just not her specifically. That is perfectly fine, but I think that you can be afraid of horror movies and be sensitive, and still carry the weight of a family.

While many Bible passages can be applicable to today's life, I think that in the case of saying that women can't "take on the tasks that men have been appointed to" is one that might need to be reconsidered. Many powerful women in today's society are strong and capable, but still caring and loving. Having a steady career does not strip a woman of her personality.

In summary, to Ellie Winters, the original author of the article: I don't hate you. I applaud you for being bold and open about your beliefs. It takes a lot of courage to do something like that, especially when your opinion is in the minority. Just keep in mind that today's feminism is about letting women like you and me have the option to have a career or a family (or both, or neither).

We stand with you, not against you. Even if you don't agree with some aspects of modern feminism, empowerment is key. Stand with your fellow women, and respect them for whatever choices they make in their lives, and in turn, we will do the same.