There is an article spiraling around the internet right now that basically says that saying you are too busy to try to have a relationship right now is not a good enough excuse, however, I think differently. I am at a time where I truly am too busy to date because I am too busy working on myself in order to be ready for when the right person does come along.

I used to put all my time into relationships. I used to think I needed a guy to complete me or find myself. Then came the day I had tears and mascara running down my face because of a boy. Looking back it is so stupid to me that I ever allowed someone so much control over me. I took a good look in the mirror and realized something needed to change, I needed to change.

With this change came a busier schedule. I decided I wanted to put my time and energy into something that would benefit me in the long run, not someone that doesn’t have the capacity to love me. I began to care for myself. I emotionally, mentally, and physically worked on myself. I am working for my future self and whoever my “Mr. Right” is.

I apologize if I offend anyone, but I would rather put time into myself than someone else at the moment. And I truly believe that when the right guy comes along, I will be willing to make time for him and he will be willing to deal with my busy schedule. I do not think I need to change anything in order to meet a guy at the moment all because according to society I need to have a boyfriend in order to be happy.

So for now I will continue to exercise, study, spend time with my friends, and work, because that is what I want in my life and that is what my time allows. Dating requires a mindset that I just do not care for right now. I am too busy to add a relationship into my life. I have tried and with every guy that it doesn’t work out with I desire to put more time into myself than a meaningless date.

If you have a boyfriend, good for you. If you are dating, I am glad. But if you only have time for yourself then that is perfectly ok and do not let anyone else make you think you need to skip a day at the gym or library in order to pursue a guy that it most likely is not your future husband.