When people hear the word "clingy", most tend to think of negative connotations with that term.

This is because most people tend to think of only extreme scenarios when it comes to terms like these. They tend to think about friendships and relationships that involve jealousy, insecurity, possessiveness, and even borderline abuse. However, when not going overboard, having friends that are clingy is the best feeling in the world to me. It's a reminder that someone loves and cares about me and would go out of their way to make sure that I feel loved and wanted.

I want to make it clear that I do believe that there are two different types of "clingy."

The first is the type that gives lots of hugs, kisses, and attention and regularly checks up on you to make sure that you're okay. The second type blows up your phone at the most inappropriate times, would get angry if you don't text back right away, and in general, would completely disrespect your boundaries. The latter is the type of clingy I try my absolute hardest to avoid.

I guess that it would vary from person to person. I didn't have that many friends growing up, so I spent most of my life getting ignored. I never truly had that feeling of someone wanting me around and enjoying my company until I was in college. Becoming friends with people who are clingy helped me boost my confidence and encouraged me to be myself. When one begins to know their limits and become more familiar with what their boundaries are, the right amount of clinginess does not seem that bad at all.

I understand why people still have mostly negative connotations when it comes to being clingy.

Many people don't know their limits, and it gives people a negative connotation with clinginess. I do believe that as long as people's boundaries are very clearly established beforehand (and I do mean VERY clearly beforehand), everyone will have a good time without overstepping one's boundaries. Everybody deserves to feel both loved and comfortable at the same time when with someone.

Clinginess does not have to be negative as long as boundaries are established, and it can sometimes be a confidence booster for some like it is to me.

For every person that thinks your clinginess is annoying, there's another person who enjoys your clinginess and wants more of your hugs. And to all my friends that were the right amount of clingy with me, thank you for coming into my life and showing me that I am loved, wanted, appreciated, and that my own hugs give you lots of pride, joy, and confidence.

You are loved, wanted, and appreciated to me too.