A Year in the Making

A Year in the Making

On finding new homes

If you told me a year ago today that the thought of coming home from college would feel like a sharp pang in my chest, I would have laughed in your face. A year ago today I was surrounded by Facebook status detailing someone else’s commitment to graduate as the “Class of 2020″ at some other college.

A year ago today, I was surrounded by AP test prep and senior prom dress shopping. A year ago today I was having my mother fake a doctors note to excuse me for being late, yet again, to school because my brother refuses to get out of bed when his alarm rings. A year ago today I was surrounded by the bittersweet feeling that can only be representative of a huge chapter of your life racing to a close before you are ready to say goodbye.

Today, here I am, sitting in my dorm room, procrastinating writing a paper, and am once again surrounded by the same bittersweet feeling. When you arrive at college on the first day you don’t expect it to ever feel like home. The dorm room is unfamiliar and bland, and far too small. The new faces seem unfriendly, and are far too plentiful. The campus is confusing to navigate and classes are too hard. The girl who sleeps on the bed next to you is a stranger, and you miss your friends and family so much it physically hurts to think about them.

So you don’t think about them; at least not when you can help it. You make yourself busy with classes and homework and trying to find time to go out, and have fun, and figure out ways to disguise the disgusting dining hall food as edible, and before you know it it’s October. And the unfriendly faces become just a bit more friendly and your dorm room walls are covered with pictures of home and the girls on your floor are becoming your friends.

And then you blink and it’s December. You blink and suddenly the quad is covered in snow and your first semester classes are coming to an end and you figured out how to navigate the dining hall (also known as: don’t go and order-in instead). And you spend all night talking and laughing with the girls on your floor and the thought of going home for a month is sad, but welcomed, because you know after a few short weeks of tropical vacations and showers without flip-flops you will be reunited.

Then, break flies by and you’re back at school. You get adjusted to your new classes quicker than first semester and you get back in a groove. You finally learn how to wash your laundry (pro tip: the tide pod goes inside the washing machine, not where you would place detergent) and you sometimes forget to call your mom, but when you do catch her on the phone it doesn’t send pangs down your chest like it did in September: it makes you smile. And everything is still a bit of a frazzled mess, but in the good way--in the way that you can laugh about over dining hall soft-serve after classes have ended for the day.

Suddenly, it’s April. And you have only a month left in this place. A place that brings you so much stress it sometimes makes you want to drop out; but a place that brings you so much happiness you truly do not want to imagine your life without it. A place that crept up and stole a piece of your heart without you ever realizing it was happening. A place where your floor mates become your family, and the stranger who was sleeping next to you in September becomes your sister. And a place that, without hesitation, you can call a home.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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14 Things You Relate To If You Grew Up WithOUT Any Cousins

*GASP* "What, you really don't have any cousins?"


It always shocks every person who hears me state that I do not have any cousins. For some reason, this is just hard for people to really believe when it's actually not something impossible. I think we are all just so used to large families that it sounds weird when people say that they have no cousins. Yet, it is definitely a potential reality, and actually impossible if each of your parents is the only child to your grandparents.

Here are 14 things that you can relate to if you grew up without any cousins.

1. Nobody believes you when you say that you don't have any cousins

I'm serious, for the tenth time.

2. Your grandparents spoil you

With no other grandchildren to worry about, it's pretty easy to do.

3. You don't understand when people say that cousins are your first best friends

My best friend was my first best friend.

4. You and your siblings are always the youngest people at family events

This was simultaneosuly a good thing and a bad thing.

5. You get all of the attention at holidays

Since you're the youngest one around, then distant relatives are always doting over you.

6. Everything you do is deemed awesome by your extended family because there is nobody to compete with

It's much easier to be praised when you aren't being compared to someone similar to your age.

7. You don't know how to hold babies

You're never around them so why would you?

8. Family photos are pretty easy to coordinate

The less people, the easier.

9. Other family members spoil you just because 

Afterall, you are the only kid around...

10. The family will make comments regarding the potential for you to have a cousin as a justification for why they aren't doing something for you

When you hear, "I can't buy you too much because someday your aunt is going to have kids and I will have to do the same for them" you cringe and just had to know that all of the attention wouldn't last forever.

11. Birthdays are always a big deal

A perk of not having very many to remember.

12. If your parents' siblings own pets, then you refer to the animal as your cousin

Cat cousins, dog cousins, lizard cousins, and fish cousins can be pretty cool, actually.

13. Sometimes you dream of marrying into a big family

This is to ensure that your kids do grow up with cousins.

14. You appreciate the closeness of your tight-knit fam

Maybe the only thing you would miss if you had a big family is the opportunity to develop such close bonds with the few relatives that you do have.

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