Find Someone Who Makes The Long Distance Struggle Not Only Bearable But Enjoyable

Find Someone Who Makes The Long Distance Struggle Not Only Bearable But Enjoyable

It takes the right someone to be able to do long distance with

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I have always heard so many stories about couples choosing to break up when they leave for college because they don't think they can handle the distance. I personally think this is beyond silly because if you truly love someone, nothing can get in your way.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and we go to schools that are about 2 hours apart, but when we are at home for breaks we live about 4 hours apart. And it works perfectly. I'm not trying to say that long distance is easy because there are definitely times that I wish more than anything we went to the same school, but it all depends on who you are in a relationship with.

Like I said, my boyfriend and I have had a few issues because of the distance, but it really all comes down to miscommunication through texting. While texting in a long distance relationship seems like a wonderful idea, I would highly recommend keeping it limited and attempting to talk on the phone or FaceTime when you want to have a lengthy conversation. It is almost impossible for text messages to be interpreted perfectly when the majority of your communication relies on it, so it simply makes things easier to verbally communicate and ensure that everything is coming across as you or your significant other intended.

That being said, whether or not a long distance relationship is possible also heavily relies on the individuals involved in the relationship, and the quality of the relationship itself. In order to make your relationship work, you have to be 100% committed to each other and also committed to the effort of making a long-lasting relationship. It takes a special kind of person to be understanding of what the situation is because sometimes it's just not possible to see each other for a special day or occasion. And that is okay. It's important to remember that the distance is only temporary, so you have to ask yourself is the permanent reward worth the temporary struggle. If answering this question is difficult for you, you may want to sit down and have a talk with yourself and with your partner.

Find someone who makes the struggle not only bearable but enjoyable. And most importantly, don't forget to enjoy the memories you are making along the way.

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Don't Leave Your Friends Hanging Just To Hang With Your Significant Other

Your friendships matter just as much as your romantic relationships.

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It happens to all of us. You meet someone who makes your stomach burst with butterflies and suddenly he/she is all you can think about. This person slowly becomes the first one you think to tell about your day, the one you send funny memes to, the one you call when you're upset, the one you invite to dinner or on a road trip with your family. It's very easy to get swept up in a relationship and want to spend all of your time with that person. This is perfectly normal and honestly a great thing!

But you have to remember the people who filled those spots in your life before.

Don't forget the friend who was your go-to brunch date or the friend you'd text right away to tell a story to. The friend who has seen you at your best and worst. The friend who encouraged you to date this person in the first place.

The friend who is waiting by the phone and wondering why you never think to reach out anymore.

You have to remember who was there for you from the beginning. It's okay to spend most of your time with your significant other if that's what you want, but too often people forget their friends once they enter a relationship and leave them feeling neglected. Your plans with them get pushed back for dates with your sweetheart and they start to feel like you don't care about them anymore. But it doesn't have to be like that.

You can make time for everyone — you just have to try.

It's healthy to have relationships independent of your boyfriend or girlfriend. And those relationships need just as much nurture and care as your romantic ones! If you don't treat your friends right, who will be there if something goes wrong in your relationship? It may be a pessimistic view, but if things don't work out and you've alienated everyone else, who will you have left?

But much more than that, you should want to keep your friends close.

They will support you in your relationship and remind you of your worth. They will give you advice and supply you with much-needed girl or guy time. Don't take that for granted. You need time with your friends.

And remember, platonic love is just as wonderful as romantic love.

So the next time you meet someone who makes your heart soar, spend as much time with them as you want! But don't abandon the people who've stuck by you. Show them you love them too.

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Why The Gays Are Willing To Go The (Long) Distance

Trust me, your significant other will always be there for you, no matter how far away you are.

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My fellow queers, have you ever had this issue: You're scrolling through your Tinder, looking at all the hot babes in your area, when you suddenly match with someone who's super cute and looks as if they're into the same things as you are. You look at their location and are surprised to see that they're only 25 miles away. Twenty-five miles away? that's great!

What I've often found humorous as a gay man, is that a lot of my fellow LGBT siblings are willing to go long distances in order to find love (or a good time). This is primarily true for LGBT folk who live in smaller cities or towns where there isn't as a large a queer community that you would find in places like New York or Los Angeles (or, Orlando and Miami if you're a fellow Floridian). So, most of us are stuck going up to 20-plus miles for dates or to simply see our significant other.

While that isn't a problem for us, we'd really like it if our dates were a little closer and that it was easier to see our significant others. While a lot (not all) straight people enjoy this luxury, even fewer LGBT folk do as well.

But, I think there's a hidden romanticism in being separated by distance. Distance and not seeing each other all the time can help strengthen a relationship.

What I've noticed about straight couples (and, this is by no means a drag on y'all) is that when you see each other all the time because you live close by, it can put a strain on a relationship. I feel like when you see someone so much, it can kill the romance. The passion will be gone because you'll become so used to the person's presence.

Having distance between you and the one you care for is hard, I know. Twenty miles can feel like a thousand, but the deep connection comes from it can close the distance between your two hearts. I mean, If the relationship gets to "that" point you could always move in together and become domestic with each other.

So, I feel like my point was lost in my ramblings but I guess what I'm trying to say is this: You don't have to be on top of your significant other to be in love with them or have a relationship with them. Take some time for yourself, do the hobbies that you love. Visit your friends without your S.O. tagging along. You have to remember, that at the end of the day you are both separate human beings who just happen to be in love.

Trust me, your significant other will always be there for you, no matter how far away you are.

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