I Am Not Here To Say If The N-Word Is Okay Or Not

I Am Not Here To Say If The N-Word Is Okay Or Not

In college it seems that every white person says the N-word.

In high school, my friends and I would create absurd scenarios of situations in college and how we would respond.

One situation was if a white person said the N-word, which at the time was this past Saturday. Since I’ve gotten to college, I’ve been to parties where everyone is singing and you know deep down that the white kids said it. But in these subtle situations, it is easy to brush off. Plus, honestly, you don't feel like fighting everybody there, or anybody at all.

This past Saturday, I was minding my own business when I heard a group of white girls outside my door singing,“1,2,3,4 how many n***ers are in my store? I know you're stealing!” My initial reaction was to jump out of my bed and check them, reenact everything that we planned.

I couldn’t decide if I should go confront them or tell my RA, so guess what I did?

I reflected.

My reflection displays the shift in my thought patterns since I’ve arrived at college. I went from thinking that I would yell at any white kid who said the N word to wondering if I can really even be upset with them for reciting a song they heard. I wondered if saying the N-word makes them racist, and if there is a huge difference from just saying it and the intent behind it.

When a white person says the word, regardless of the context, it hurts like a stab in the back. 3 months ago, I would have been on defense; however, since entering college, my viewpoints on a lot of things have changed. I used to be against anyone outside of the black community using the term, but the fact of the matter is that we all have the right to freedom of speech.

We can either hope they do not intend to attach the history and racism behind the word, imitate them until they do not say it, or report them as soon as they say it.

My biggest issue with white people saying it is their intent. Us black people use it universally; it can be a reference to a friend, or the person who cut in front of us on the highway. In my opinion, we use the word in context.

White people do not say “n***a bring your ass downstairs”, and I have never met someone that uses it daily or uses it to address someone they know. So I question, why do you want permission to say it around us black people? To me, that is what makes it a racially charged term. If you claim that you never use the word, why do you want permission to say it to ME?

If a white person says it out of my presence, it does not bother me because they are out of my presence. If you are black, my tip to you is to pick your battle. If by chance you are white and are reading this, my opinion is that you can do what you want in regards to the word, but accept all outcomes that comes with the usage.

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4 Things My Brother Taught me Before he turned 4

4 of many lessons my beloved sibling has brought to my attention in the last four years


On July 19, my sweet baby brother is turning four years old. And while to many that doesn't sound like a milestone or a big deal, it is. My sibling and I had a love-hate relationship from the start, as anyone would expect from an only child for 15 glorious years. That love-hate relationship quickly turned into all love, laughter and life lessons.

1. Have Fun

Quite obviously shown above in the photo, my baby brother and I have fun with each other all the time. He may just be my best friend, with his comforting words when he knows I'm sad- or just stubbed my toe- or his tickles that make me giggle like no other. I can always count on my best friend to make me laugh and have fun with me.

2. Manners Manners Manners

Having a younger sibling that follows you around and acts like a mocking bird, helps you to quickly reevaluate your actions and sayings. Having my brother, Brody, around helped me to freshen up on my mannerisms. I would frankly be embarrassed if we were to go out and he didn't say thank you or please when necessary. My father, however, took manners to the next level, the boyfriend material level... all before the age of four. When I venture out of our home with Brody or our dad and Brody, Brody always holds the door for me and anyone else coming up. There is something to be said for a child with manners.

3. Patience

Young children are always a test to your patience, no matter who they may be. Little brothers especially have a way to make sure they get on their sisters nerves. And although he may( definitely does) get on my nerves, he has taught me to take a moment and think about my own feelings and how easily or quickly I am getting annoyed and reevaluating my emotions to better myself and Brody. I have learned patience beyond my wildest dreams and hope to put them to use one day with my own curtain climbers.

4. Most Importantly... Love

Have you ever seen a child go crazy just at the fact they get to sleep in your bed. Or, when their eyes light up at the word "ice-cream" You better understand and appreciate love when you have someone there to experience everything for the first time and fall in love with every new experience all over again. Children have a great capacity to love and care for one another and my baby brother has taught me that sometimes we get what we don't think we needed and gain a lot from the experience.

To the brother I know and love, I hope your lessons to me can be a reminder or lesson to someone else. Happy fourth "Bird day!" Your sister loves you like no one else!

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