We have all been to the point where we are laying in bed staring at the ceiling, wondering what we are doing with our lives. It feels like a mid-life crisis. Whether it's boy problems, a petty fight with a girl friend, stressing out about school, or just not knowing what you are going to do after you get your degree. You thought life was going to be easy sailing after high school graduation, right?

It's okay to not be okay.

It's okay to not know.

It's okay to cry.

I'm 20 years old and I have learned more about myself and about other people in the past two years of my life than I think I ever have. I have grown to love and accept myself for who I am. I think the biggest part of growing up is realizing who you are. There will come a day when you look at yourself in the mirror and you will no longer recognize the person that is staring back at you.

Adulthood is close. You have put away childish things and the real world is almost within reach. My parents always used to ask me why I wanted to grow up so bad. I understand why they used to ask me that now because I realize that my plate is quite full and it won't be getting any emptier.

Thinking about life after graduation is the most stressful part of growing up, I think. The thoughts of where I'm going to live, work, and continue education is overwhelming at times. I call my mom stressed out, but she is always sure to tell me to focus on the now, instead of the future, which might not even go the way that I think or hope it will.

Like I said, it is okay to not be okay. Whenever I am just completely feeling the pressure of school, work, and the future, I just remember to focus on the now and to do my best in everything that I do, so that I can have the best future possible. I think about my kids, my husband, my career and I want to work hard for it all.

I would be lying if I said I did not have a freakout or panic moment in these past two years of college. I read, I listen to worship music, and I take a "me day" where I put a face mask on and eat junk food and watch Netflix.

It is important to focus on YOU. Not on petty things that will not matter in ten years, like whether or not Jessica is still upset at you or why you didn't get the job you applied for and really wanted. Disappointments are a part of life. From them, we become stronger and wiser.

Heartaches and heartbreaks are the same. They hurt more than we think anyone will understand, when really, we have all been there. Whether it is over the loss of a good friend or the loss of a boyfriend or girlfriend, your heartache will come to pass. I, myself, have experienced the sadness of losing a friend. It does suck and it is something that will seemingly always have you wondering why. It always seems to happen at the times where you didn't think it could get any worse...But it did.

I am here to tell you that you are going to be okay. You will get through college. You will get through your breakup. Dealing with things on your own can be lonely, scary, and sad, I know, but I promise that it only makes you stronger. The grown-up world is not as fun as we thought it was going to be, but here we are, surviving and thriving. You are going to be okay.

So stop worrying and start living. Start feeling. Start creating.