Everyone knows it, and if you don't know it, here it is. Relationships can be extremely complicated. Whether you are in a heterosexual relationship, homosexual relationship, or anything in between, relationships are really hard to figure out. One of the driving forces that make relationships harder than they should be is usually the lack of communication between one another.

Communication between any type of partnership is such an important key to making the rest of the relationship flourish. But as much as this is important, another aspect of this key is important as well. The idea that both sides of the partnership are equally talking, decision making, and cooperating together. Seems easy and self-explanatory, right? What I mean with this is that the majority of the time in heterosexual relationships, the man is the one who usually makes big and important decisions, plans what the couple will do, or when to move the relationship to another level.

Now, this is not the case in every heterosexual relationship, and there are even cases where women prefer to have the men playing this role in their lives. I am strictly referring to the idea that a lot of girls are sometimes too afraid of speaking their minds. That they might not necessarily agree with what their partners are saying, but in order to keep quarrels low, or make sure they do not lose their partner altogether, they never speak up about what they want or how they feel.

Not only does this increase the possibility of an argument later down the line, but this is usually where and when relationships start to falter. We see it in the movies all the time, the girl being swept off her feet by the guy of her dreams and just "going with the flow" according to his plans and future needs. It wasn't even until recently that movies, specifically romantic comedies, started capturing the essence of an independent woman. Giving her a more prospering career rather than a florist, or local baker. Even then, women can be seen hesitate in choosing a relationship over their careers, like they would be forced to make the choice at all in the real world.

The point being, taking charge of a relationship as a woman is not ever a bad thing.

Women shouldn't be afraid of being called uptight or psycho just by speaking their minds or taking on the so-called "Male role" in the relationship. Furthermore, women shouldn't feel guilty or that they have to apologize when they do tell their partners what they want and need in the relationship.

So no matter what kind of relationship you are in or plan to be in in the future times to come, make sure that you are your partner are treating each other as equals. There is no one in any relationship that has more "dominance" in any decision making about something you, as a woman, are justified to make as well. Women are no longer playing the parts of shy, awkward, submissive girlfriends. But strong, independent, and confident being who know what they want and aren't afraid to reach out and grab it.