We're All women, so why aren't we all on the same side?

We're All women, so why aren't we all on the same side?

Let's make this not only a man's world but a woman's world, too.


What does it mean to be a woman? Is there really a correct answer, or a right way to be a woman?

Of course, there's not. Being a woman means something different to every woman on the planet. Some may say that women are meant to stay at home to cook and clean, while others say women have every right to go out and be just as successful as any man. Some may say a million things in between.

Whatever it is, women should be able to be and do whatever it is they want, without any backlash.

Women go through a lot of crap in their lifetime. I'm only twenty years old and I already know that to be true. Women go through one hardship after another, and you'd think men would have a hand in doing so, but that isn't always the case.

Unfortunately, we can't just blame all of a woman's problems on men, although sometimes it can be much easier to do so. Sometimes, women themselves are a huge reason why other women struggle so much throughout their lifetime.

Like I said, I'm only twenty. But going through middle school, high school, and half of college has shown me just how mean some girls can be.

There are girls who watch your every move and wait for you to slip up so they can move forward while you move back. There are girls who are so hideously jealous that they go out of their way to make other girls feel bad about themselves. There are even girls who seem to be mean just for the hell of it.

Women are already pretty low on the totem pole, so why do other women constantly keep pushing each other even lower? Women should be pushing each other up to new heights instead of tearing each other down. We should be happy for each other when we do well and support the decisions we make.

I know it isn't easy. Sometimes it's hard to appreciate other women because they can be seen as competition, or you may constantly compare how you look to how they look. You may even wish that you had everything they do.

But I promise you will feel so much better when you put those differences aside and begin to see that we are all on the same side.

Being you is the best possible thing you could ever do with your life, and being PROUD of being you is even better. Being a woman can mean different things for everyone, but women in today's world need to start supporting each other more now than ever.

We are all in this together and are most certainly in it for the long haul.

At the end of the day, we are all the same. We're just trying to make the best of being put into what is without a doubt a man's world, and constantly nagging at each other makes that much harder to do.

So, teach your daughters to choose kindness rather than hate. Teach your sons to appreciate the women they have in their lives. Teach yourself to support other women in the world, whether you agree or disagree with what they are doing.

Let's learn to respect one another. Let's hope that one day we can all be the strong woman we dream of becoming, and let's support each other endlessly until that comes true.

Let's make this not only a man's world but a woman's world, too.

Girls compete with each other. Women empower each other. So, let's start by doing that and hope that it will start a chain reaction. This world could use a few more women who have the ability to kick ass, and that all starts with some support, so get moving, ladies.

It's up to you.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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An Open Letter To Myself: I Don't Really Like You

If I would meet myself at a party, I wouldn't stay for conversation.


This is a letter to myself. So I'll start it like this: I don't like you.

It's got nothing to do with what you look like. It has to do with how you act, how you speak, how you present your emotions. You can be a real drama queen, and not always a lovable one. It's funny. You tend to overreact about the smallest things, but you sit back and let big things slide.

It's like you think you deserve to let big things take a back seat while you dwell on tiny issues that give you something to complain about. You try not to be negative, especially when it comes to the people you care about, but you can be so negative about yourself. Stop doing that.

You never invest in your own happiness. You second-guess yourself and wonder why good things pass you by, but it's you. You let things pass you by, you let opportunities pass because you're lazy. My goodness, you can really be lazy. Not just physically, but mentally. You always say "I'll do it soon" and then you never do.

If I met you at a party, I would find a way to get out of talking to you. You can be way too loud at times, and then too quiet at others. So I don't know how to read you. You are unreadable. You have so many things on your surface that do not make sense, but when you go deeper, it's another mystery.

At least try to meet your mind and soul halfway. Try to look for yourself, try to find yourself because I'm sure there's more to you, but you'll never know if you don't try.



P.S. I'm sorry for being hard on you, but it's only because I think you really need to reconsider who you are. Reconsider your own importance and worth. You'll be surprised to find out how much you can find out about yourself.

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