Women Need To Support Other Women

We're All women, so why aren't we all on the same side?

Let's make this not only a man's world but a woman's world, too.

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What does it mean to be a woman? Is there really a correct answer, or a right way to be a woman?

Of course, there's not. Being a woman means something different to every woman on the planet. Some may say that women are meant to stay at home to cook and clean, while others say women have every right to go out and be just as successful as any man. Some may say a million things in between.

Whatever it is, women should be able to be and do whatever it is they want, without any backlash.

Women go through a lot of crap in their lifetime. I'm only twenty years old and I already know that to be true. Women go through one hardship after another, and you'd think men would have a hand in doing so, but that isn't always the case.

Unfortunately, we can't just blame all of a woman's problems on men, although sometimes it can be much easier to do so. Sometimes, women themselves are a huge reason why other women struggle so much throughout their lifetime.

Like I said, I'm only twenty. But going through middle school, high school, and half of college has shown me just how mean some girls can be.

There are girls who watch your every move and wait for you to slip up so they can move forward while you move back. There are girls who are so hideously jealous that they go out of their way to make other girls feel bad about themselves. There are even girls who seem to be mean just for the hell of it.

Women are already pretty low on the totem pole, so why do other women constantly keep pushing each other even lower? Women should be pushing each other up to new heights instead of tearing each other down. We should be happy for each other when we do well and support the decisions we make.

I know it isn't easy. Sometimes it's hard to appreciate other women because they can be seen as competition, or you may constantly compare how you look to how they look. You may even wish that you had everything they do.

But I promise you will feel so much better when you put those differences aside and begin to see that we are all on the same side.

Being you is the best possible thing you could ever do with your life, and being PROUD of being you is even better. Being a woman can mean different things for everyone, but women in today's world need to start supporting each other more now than ever.

We are all in this together and are most certainly in it for the long haul.

At the end of the day, we are all the same. We're just trying to make the best of being put into what is without a doubt a man's world, and constantly nagging at each other makes that much harder to do.

So, teach your daughters to choose kindness rather than hate. Teach your sons to appreciate the women they have in their lives. Teach yourself to support other women in the world, whether you agree or disagree with what they are doing.

Let's learn to respect one another. Let's hope that one day we can all be the strong woman we dream of becoming, and let's support each other endlessly until that comes true.

Let's make this not only a man's world but a woman's world, too.

Girls compete with each other. Women empower each other. So, let's start by doing that and hope that it will start a chain reaction. This world could use a few more women who have the ability to kick ass, and that all starts with some support, so get moving, ladies.

It's up to you.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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My Body Is Not Your Conversation Topic

I'm not up for public consumption.

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I'm skinny. There is seemingly nothing wrong with that. I'm a bit underweight but I am healthy. My body does everything I need it to do and I take care of it well. There is a privilege in being skinny; I can shop for clothes my size relatively easily, my body type is represented in the media constantly, etc.

There's nothing wrong with having a healthily thin body type — women are beautiful at every size. The only problem with being skinny is that I don't want to be. I have struggled with my weight and body image for a long time and it is my own problem to deal with, but some days people around me make it worse.

Being skinny makes me feel small, insignificant, like a child. People say the weirdest things about my body and act like it's a compliment. In high school, I wore a pencil skirt to school and was with my friends in the office. An administrator came up to talk to us and commented on how skinny my legs were, then proceeded to gesture to her own leg and ask me if she could give some of her "fat" because I "needed it." It's funnier now but at the time, I was so uncomfortable and too shy to do anything but give her a courtesy laugh.

I didn't wear skirts for a while after that. Those kinds of comments make me feel seen in the wrong way; it makes me want to disappear. There have even been people who are bold enough to invade my personal space and touch me, then tell me — in amazement — that I'm "really skin and bones." It's weird and awkward and truly doesn't add anything to a conversation. It's actually the easiest way to get me to end a conversation, as well as a relationship, with you.

In a day and age where we share almost everything online, it's become the norm to discuss and analyze people's bodies. They're the ones putting it out there so we should be able to nitpick them to death, right? Wrong. Commenting on someone's body, size, health, etc. is never okay and should not be considered commonplace. I know I'm skinny so I definitely don't need anyone to remind me. The sky is blue but we don't point it out every day, do we?

Leave people's bodies alone. You truly never know what somebody may be dealing with in terms of their body image. And no, you're not entitled to know. I don't tell everybody who makes a comment about my body that I've struggled with my body image since I was 13 because they simply don't deserve to know. Don't put people in a position where they have to defend their own body.

I'm taking my power back lately and not giving anyone a courtesy laugh when they make a joke or comment about my body. Instead, I'm just telling them to shut up, and I encourage you to do the same.

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