The 2004 teen flick "Mean Girls" depicts the stereotypical group of girls nearly everyone faced in high school; it is both comedic and all too real. The cycle of girls gossiping, spreading rumors and socially shunning each other is a habit many of us have adopted at some point in our lives. It's time girls stop viewing one another as the enemy and instead learn to uplift and support one another in everything they do. Here are five things we can learn from "Mean Girls" regarding the tendency of women to hate on other females.
1. Let’s put an end to all the pettiness, jealousy and insecurities.
When scrolling through other girls' Instagram feeds, which show them in the most idealized perspectives, it's hard not to be a little envious of their picture-perfect lives. This jealous nature is evident at school or in the workplace as well. We have an inclination to undermine each other’s hard work, criticize each other’s bodies and appearances and hate on someone else's accomplishments. We would rather meticulously point out a girl's flaws than acknowledge her success.
2. We should stop viewing each other as competitors.
Some people are willing to put others down in order to feel better about themselves. Society has conditioned girls to compete with one another and it inhibits us from genuinely being happy for one another. We see someone else as threatening our chance to get ahead and constantly feel inferior in comparison. We gossip, sabotage and judge each other—all out of the fear of failure and insecurity we feel.
3. There's no need to verbally tear each other apart.
While many people are advocating for women's freedom, some of us can’t help but place our own agendas and ideals above the rights of women. We are constantly bringing each other down and shaming each other’s choices. It seems as though any action a girl takes is immediately judged and ridiculed by other women. The names we call others and the rumors we tell do nothing but detract from the progress so many inspiring women are making.
4. Empowered women should empower women.
We shouldn’t feel intimidated when another girl is thriving, our compliments shouldn’t be embedded with resentful undertones and our value shouldn’t be determined by how we compare to others. Instead,
we should celebrate each other's victories. Seeing another women thrive at life should be seen as a victory for all of us and we should start supporting women in the way that we would want to be supported.5. Let's learn to be happy for ourselves so that we can be happy for each other.
In the end, we should all work on learning to love ourselves and everything we have to offer to the world. We should focus on finding our confidence and worth without compromising the feelings of other girls in the process. Imagine a world where confident and bold women support and love one another. It's time we reject the ulterior motives and underlying resentments and instead, embrace the concept of women uplifting women with authentic hearts and genuine kindness.