Women Cannot Be Best Friends With Men

Women Cannot Be Best Friends With Men

You will destroy yourself.

Can heterosexual men and women, who are both single, be just friends? Yes. But can they be best friends?

No. At some point, my dear girl, you will fall for him.

You will unintentionally hand your heart to him, and he likely won't even realize it has happened. If you constantly text each other, hang out, and talk, you will eventually fall for him.

You'll grow to love him. It won't be intentional. You would probably never admit to it. It will ruin you, but if you get too close to him, it'll happen.

There's a fine line between a friendship and a romantic relationship. The line can become blurred so quickly.

When your world consists so much of your male best friend, your mind will begin to wonder what a relationship with him would be like. This is natural. It is the way we were designed; we were designed to to see the opposite sex as potential partners.

You can be friends with a man, but being his best friend can get messy.

You will listen to his heartbreaks, his dreams, and his story.

You will learn him.

You'll meet his family. You will learn simple things that make you love him – things such as his most embarrassing childhood story, his proudest accomplishment or his biggest disappointments. You will understand who, and what, makes him who he is.

You will learn him, and you will slowly fall in love with him.

You'll learn what makes him tick. You'll learn his face, his smile, and his laugh. You'll recognize when he's sad, even though no one else does; you'll understand him like few do.

You will learn him. You will learn his heart.

You will wonder what it would be like to fall for someone like the guy you already trust so much; the one who constantly makes you laugh. You will wonder what it would be like if you weren't only the very best of friends.

You, my sweet friend, will feel terrible when you realize what is happening. When you realize that your heart is intent on more than friendship, you will ruin yourself. You will break your own heart when you realize that he means more to you than you mean to him.

So, can you be best friends with him? Can you talk to him, hang out constantly, and know him better than anyone else and not fall for him? No. You can be friends with a man, but if he is your best friend, you will eventually develop feelings for him. If you don't watch yourself, you will let yourself get too close to him.

Guard your hearts, my sweet friends. Guard your hearts.

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44 Lyrics For When You Need An Instagram Caption

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Choosing the caption for your Instagram can be almost as challenging as deciding on a filter. So, if you’re ready to post that Insta, but don’t know what to say, here are 44 lyrics for when you need an Instagram caption.

1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

13. “You can’t choose what stays and what fades away.” - Florence + The Machine, "No Light, No Light"

14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

15. “She’s a good girl, loves her mama. Loves Jesus, and America too.” - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Free Fallin’"

16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

19. “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.” - Uncle Kracker, "Drift Away"

20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

31. “God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.” Billy Currington, "People Are Crazy"

32. “Well my heart is gold, and my hands are cold.” - Halsey, "Gasoline"

33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

34. “Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” - Mumford and Sons, "Awake My Soul"

35. “I think I need a sunrise, I’m tired of the sunset.” - Augustana, "Boston"

36. “All of these lines across my face tell you the story of who I am.” - Brandi Carlile, "The Story"

37. ‘Ready or not, here I come. Where you at? The night is young.” - Bridgit Mendler, "Ready or Not"

38. “In the land of Gods and Monsters, I was an angel.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

39. “Turns out not where, but who you’re with that really matters.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Best Of What’s Around"

40. “Know yourself, know your worth.” - Drake, "0 to 100"

41. “I’m little but I’m coming for the crown.” - Lorde, "Still Sane"

42. “Didn’t they tell you I was a savage?” - Rihanna, "Needed Me"

43. “Hands in the air like we don’t care.” - Miley Cyrus, "We Can’t Stop"

44. “I’ma keep running because a winner don’t quit on themselves.” - Beyonce, "Freedom"

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I Spent The Week Testing Out Podcasts And Here Are My Thoughts

Before sophomore year of college, I wouldn't have been caught dead listening to a podcast.


Before my sophomore year of college, I never would have imagined that I would listen to podcasts on a regular basis. I had always thought of them as boring and something only those obsessed with academia or my parents' generation, listened to. However, after discovering the vast number of podcasts out there discussing topics that interested me, it's safe to say I have been converted. For the last week I have been trying out some new podcasts, here are my thoughts.

My Favorite Murder

This was the podcast that got me interested in podcasts. Before I listened to My Favorite Murder I thought podcasts were boring and something that only my parents' generation listened to. The idea of discussing murders sounds super dark and kind of depressing but Georgia and Karen's sense of humor is what makes this podcast so successful. I love that there interact so much with their listeners which I feel has really shaped the podcast well. Not only do they read "Hometown Murders" sent in by listeners but they also invite listeners to send in other strange experiences they've had such as finding large amounts of money in weird places and almost being murdered. I also like that they do both full-length episodes and minisodes as it gives the listeners some options. The minisodes are typically around 20-30 minutes and are the perfect length to fit in right before class, while the full-length episodes are anywhere from 1-2 hours.

"U Up?"

This podcast is pretty funny but it's definitely not everyone's cup of tea. So if you hate millennials and everything about them, this podcast is not for you. What I like is that you never really know what you're going to listen to. They discuss a vast number of topics from whether some Halloween costumes are politically incorrect or funny too how to handle your parents trying to hijack your 21-run. The only thing I didn't love about this podcast was that the episodes tend to be around 45 minutes, which is kind of a time commitment when you're first testing out a podcast.

"And That's Why We Drink"

I'm going to start this out by saying that I'm not super into horror movies or anything related, however, this podcast is pretty great. Em and Christine are able to add pretty amusing spins to otherwise terrifying stories and messed up stories. The title is fairly self-explanatory as they discuss a mix of paranormal activity and true crime that helps you realize how messed up the world is and gives you a reason to drink. Think Buzzfeed Unsolved but as a podcast.

"Stuff You Should Know"

I like this podcast because, as you could tell from the name, it's more of an informative podcast. It's the type of thing you could listen to with your parents or grandparents and it wouldn't be weird. Josh and Chuck are funny but in kind of a dad-jokes-meet-millennials-humor sort of way. They cover many different topics, ranging from narwhals to King Arthur to Frida Kahlo to how tsunamis work.


I was not super into Lore at first, but now I'm hooked. The title is fairly self-explanatory as Aaron Mahnke discussed folklore from around the world and the history behind it. What I love is that he discusses more popular topics such as vampires and werewolves, but he also discusses folklore that is not as well-known. The episode that really hooked me was "Dinner at the Afterglow" which discussed Afterglow Vista near Roche Harbor, a strange monument I had seen on vacation many times as a child, and its connection to Hotel de Haro, a historic hotel within the city. Having the background of both the hotel and monument, as well as the myths behind them, explained was informative and eye-opening. This podcast has everything: a creepy Riverdale-vibe, good background music (other than the first episode), solid research, reliable sources, and some sarcasm from Aaron.

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