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I Am A Woman That Doesn't Want Kids, And That's Okay

I'd rather be the cool aunt with lots of dogs.

Lindsay Messina
Mar 08, 2019
Temple University
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I Am A Woman That Doesn't Want Kids, And That's Okay
Lindsay Messina

Every time the topic of children comes up when I am in a conversation with someone, I usually have the same response. "Actually, I don't want kids." As a woman, everyone assumes that you want the white picket fence, a husband, and a boatload of kids. I don't think there is anything wrong with that lifestyle, and I know a TON of new moms, but I don't think that it is the lifestyle that I want.

Just because I do not want kids does not mean I have a secret vendetta against children. I actually think babies are super duper cute, and gush over them like the rest of society, but I don't think being a mother is what the universe has in store for me. It goes without saying that children are a LOT of responsibility, and I honestly just don't think I can personally deal with the stress. I would totally rather be the cool aunt that gets to play with the baby and do all the fun stuff.

I also have zero maternal instinct. When I hold babies, I always have no clue what to do when they cry. I just personally don't find being a mother attractive. The only thing I feel when I see a baby is that it's cute. I just don't have the underlying urge to complete my biological destiny. I see family members and friends with babies, and it just seems perfect. They truly are in their element and belong, and I love that for them. I just think having children isn't going to happen for me, and I'm okay with that.

It took me a long time to feel comfortable saying that I am okay with not wanting children. I've never had someone outrightly tell me anything negative for thinking this way, but I definitely have gotten some passive-aggressive responses and weird looks.

I know that I am only nineteen, and that is an extremely young age to think about having children, but I know that I do not want to have them. As I grow and mature, I want to keep an open mind, but I have felt this way for as long as I can remember. There is nothing wrong with me, or anyone else who feels this way, and I finally feel confident enough to recognize that.

I don't want children, and that's perfectly okay.

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