If you're a woman in her 20s/possibly early 30s, it seems like it's impossible to get away from any talk about your future life when it comes to meeting up with old family friends. I know that's been the case lately in my life.

I recently had a less than stellar conversation with one of my family friends, and he nonchalantly brought up the fact that, "I should be giving my dad grandkids sometime in the near future."

All I could do was politely smile, brush off the comment and exit that conversation as quickly as I could. Even though that conversation took place a couple of weeks ago, something just didn't sit right with me. He might have meant well, and probably didn't think anything of it, but I feel that it was so not his place to tell me what I should be doing with my body.

It's my strongly held belief that a woman should not be forced into having a child. Just because someone might have been born with the genetic material necessary for carrying a child, does not mean that they have to have one.

Furthermore, it's not OK to place that kind of pressure on someone, either. Society loves to tell women what we should be doing with our bodies, and I'm saying enough is enough. There are still so many things I want to do with my life before even deciding if I want to have a child.

It's 2020, there is no need to rush anyone into that kind of life-altering decision simply because that was "the norm" back in the day.

I have a lot of life that I still want to live before even thinking about making a decision that huge, and I know I'm not the only 20-something woman who feels that way.

Now, I am in no way, shape or form denigrating women who are in my age group who have chosen to have children. I think that's absolutely wonderful, and these women are tough as nails and then some.

But, just because I am a 20-something woman does not mean that motherhood should be an expectation that is placed on my body.

It also doesn't mean that other 20-something women who feel the same way I do should be forced to go down a path they might not be ready for yet, either. Advances in contraceptives have been absolutely wonderful and incredibly empowering. This gives women, like me, the option to hold off on motherhood for a while, or to hold off on motherhood entirely.

At this point in my life, I know that I want my future to consist of a thriving career, a nice home and someone to come home to—that's all I know so far. It's OK not to have all of the answers to the big life questions right now, and the motherhood question is one that I just don't have an answer for at the moment.

I'm choosing to give myself some time and to give myself a little grace, too. Not everything has to be figured out right this minute—the same goes for anyone else who feels that way, too. We'll all get to the place we're supposed to be at, when we're supposed to get there. There's no need to rush anything.