The Wisest Words I've Ever Heard

The Wisest Words I've Ever Heard

Here's to living in the now.
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As someone who is very close with my parents, I go to them with anything and everything—comfortably. My parents are the most accepting, open, and understanding people I know, and I am eternally grateful for that. On my best and my worst days, the two of them always know how to pick me up regardless of circumstances.

In these two role models of mine, I see so much that I wish to one day attain. My parents make me want to be a better person; as I've gotten older I've only become more appreciative of all that they do and all that they are.

I watch them move mountains for the people they love, appreciate the good in every day, and never take a single moment for granted. Easily, I could speak for hours about their admirable character and the way it continuously impacts me as a young woman.

When it comes to my dad, words can’t do him justice. This man is the hardest working, self-made and selfless human being in my life. To become half the parent he is would be a miracle, and to grow as wise as he is would be my greatest accomplishment.

A month or so ago, I was going through a time when I needed my parents raw and true advice. My head was cloudy and the confusion I felt was obvious. After a long phone conversation with my dad, I received a text from him that spoke volumes.

In it he wrote, “If we had a crystal ball to show us our future, life would be less complicated. There’s a reason for everything even when things are hard to understand. Everything will be okay.” As I read the message my eyes filled up. It was as if everything I had ever questioned and tried to understand was settled.

Since my dad sent me this thought-provoking message, I’ve reflected in rather eye-opening ways.

It’s okay to not know—to be unsure about what you want to do in life, where you’re going, or who you are. Time and growth are two variables that coincide and work in mysterious and amazing ways. If we knew what our future held, we wouldn’t work towards our goals, nor would we take chances. Our experiences mold us and make us who we are. It’s quite easy to get caught up and want time to pass so we can be where we hope to be, but realistically, the time we should appreciate is right now.

There is something so beautiful about the unknown, and without someone as influential as my father, I don’t think I would’ve ever realized that.

Cover Image Credit: Alyssa Innaurato

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There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman.

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Growing up shouldn't necessarily mean moving onto the next level in your life and becoming completely mature for your age. Actually, it should also be a "glowing" phase in your life. Honestly, I have been under the impression that growing only refers to aging physically and the eventual understanding of a person's countless responsibilities/duties.

However, I have begun to realize what the "glowing" aspect of growing actually means. It is when a young girl gets married and then proceeds towards the next phase of life called motherhood. This is exactly when the evolution of the young girl actually begins.

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman. I'm saying this due to my recent conversation with my mother, aunt, and grandma. I began by asking them what was the most fruitful journey in your life? All of them answered by saying that motherhood shaped their life extensively and further provided them with another full-fledged reason to live.

In other words, they have briefly mentioned that babies are just like flowers that have to be nurtured immensely in order to fully bloom. After hearing this, I have fully understood why women tend to glow the most when they are expecting! In fact, the biological process of creating life and then bringing a couple's symbol of love into the world is indeed an amazing feat.

It is astonishing how motherhood can change a woman's life remarkably. During our conversation, I was able to learn how much hard work is dedicated toward nourishing a child and their overall upbringing. I'm forever grateful for what my mom has done for me and is still doing for me till this day. It takes an enormous amount of stamina and courage to effectively bring up a child and I have carefully observed my mother throughout the years. Essentially, women are no longer completely free to behave irrationally and impatiently. Motherhood exposes them to many life-changing skills, many of which revolve around time management and patience.

On the other side of the spectrum, once a woman becomes a mother, they have to make some important career-changing decisions. Many mothers become working mothers and some become stay-at-home mothers for some time. Some mothers tend to devote most of their time playing and taking care of their children just like my mother and grandma. Whereas, many women are awesome at both balancing work and their motherly responsibilities.

I'm from the school of thought that women are free to decide what they want best and they shouldn't be restrained from venturing out and advancing in their careers. Excelling in their careers is an incredible delight if they have full support from their family and are able to actively balance both responsibilities.

A mother's love is unconditional and we will always be indebted to them for bringing us into the world. Finally, I would like to give a shout out to all the amazing super-women out there who have proved to be affectionate, creative, and impressive role-models for their children!

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