So, #WhyIDidntReport Was Because It Was A 'Friend' Who Raped Me
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So, #WhyIDidntReport Was Because It Was A 'Friend' Who Raped Me

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So, #WhyIDidntReport Was Because It Was A 'Friend' Who Raped Me
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I wasn't sure about writing this article, but I'm damn right mad.

It's almost a year since my #metoo article, and I figured and was hoping a lot has changed since then. Yet I was so so wrong, and it's so so wrong on our behalf too. On the behalf of the government, our so-called friends, maybe our spouse; You are done getting away with it.

It: Rape, sexual assault, groping, smacking a girl's ass on the street.

Recently Bill Cosby only got 3-10 years for sexually assaulting a girl and drugging her.

Trump and his gang are thinking of putting a sexual assaulter in the seat of the Supreme Court.

Our president has many claims against him, too.

Are they above us? Our rapists? Our sexual abusers? Our friends?

You're probably wondering why I keep bringing up friends. What do friends have to do with this article bashing on rapists and abusers? I want you to know one thing some celebrities, and government people are coming forward with: Friends also can rape their friends.

How do I know? It happened to me. I was raped by my friend. My so-called friend came to my dorm drunk because he was locked out of his room, and raped me. Used his strength and weight to his advantage. Hearing, "You know you've dreamed of this day" in your ear haunts you. Even sometimes when I have sex with my boyfriend.

The best part happened after that, I was labeled a girl who had sex with a guy and called it rape because I didn't "like it" by my other so-called friends. If only our friends in the group knew what he did to me. If only they knew I wish someone knocked on the door that night.

If only someone would ask me about what happened. So I could tell them how the sex was and I could tell them the truth. It was rape. He just figured I wanted him. He figured my answer would be yes. At 18 years old, my answer to a drunk man, a drunk "friend" who just figured I wanted him, would've been no.

That's why I didn't go to the police. I didn't want to be a girl who had sex with a guy and called it rape because I didn't like it, in their eyes.

I have hidden it deep in my gut, and I don't always talk about it. It's painful, it brings you to tears. You think of the scared girl back there and looking at yourself now. How much you have grown because no one would listen. People are coming forward left and right feeling done with the abuser or rapist getting away with what they did. They deserve time behind bars. They don't deserve to walk the same streets we do. Who knows if they have done it again. Hurt another girl like me.

I'm tired of seeing things on the news. About how she is probably lying, and how she is ruining his career. I don't give a damn about their career. Us women deserve justice. If they were a boss, a parent, a sibling, pastor, teacher, or friend.

We deserve to feel safe. We deserve to feel heard.

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