That stupid day is right around the corner and you've got nothing to do right? All your friends that have significant others are intoxicated on love that you can't bear to watch. The only date you have is a half-eaten box of pizza that's left in the fridge.

Let me reassure you that there's nothing wrong with you. You don't repel guys/girls (whatever you're into, I don't judge). It's not that you aren't likable or attractive or because one time you spilled ice cream all over you and everyone saw. It's simply because you just haven't met the right person yet.

I'm a firm believer in "everything happens for a reason." After my ex and I broke up, I probably asked out 15 girls before I asked out my current girlfriend and every single time I was rejected. There isn't a day that goes by where I'm not thankful that every one of them turned me down because I could not be happier.

They're out there somewhere, looking for you too. Maybe you know them already, or you still need to meet them. But I promise you, they are getting to you as fast as they can and they will replace that pizza. It will be beyond worth it in the end when you finally get with the right one.

As humans, we have the intrinsic quality of being impatient, we want what we want and we want it now. Well, unfortunately, that isn't how life works. Most of us have this mold in our head of the "perfect person" whose qualities fit precisely into every crevice; every personality trait, means of appearance, goals for the future, everything, is supposedly meant to fit this mold of someone we're looking for.

Then, as this mold is created, with every person we come across, we try to force them into it. We try to convince ourselves saying "Maybe it's this person" or "They're pretty much what I want," knowing that they're in reality the wrong person just trying to fit into Cinderella's shoe.

Relationships, or at least the right ones, cannot be forced. And it's important to keep in mind that the best things are found when you aren't even looking. Molds are meant to be broken, reshaped, or even changed as our eye-roll worthy statement, patience is a virtue and the relationships worth having will come when the time is right. If you know what you want, stick to it, and don't settle.

The right person for you is out there waiting, and although they might not fit the mold that you've been trying to fill for months or even years, the person that they are may fill a place in your heart that no mold could even contain.

*Marygrace Chylinski cowrote this with myself*