Why You Should Have More Than One Best Friend

Why You Should Have More Than One Best Friend

The bottom line is that people need other people.

I get made fun of a lot for my excessive use of hyperbole. "Oh my god, this is the best song EVER!" I cry when I hear 99% of songs. "I've never loved anything more than [insert thing that I've only known about for two days but somehow developed a deep and temporary obsession with]." And quite famously, my excessive use of "literally," even when I mean figuratively. I tend to laugh and apologize for doing these things when people call me out on it, which is often.

But one thing I will not apologize for is for calling a lot of people my best friends. Yes, I get called out for this one, too. "Annie, you think everyone is your best friend."

Firstly, that's not even remotely true, but I can see where people get that idea from. "OH MY GOD this person is my best friend" is something that I do say pretty often. But who came up with the notion that you have to put a cap on the amount of "best friends" you have, or even worse, that you can only have one best friend?

To me, that makes no sense. You can, and should, have multiple best friends. You can have your childhood best friends, your high school best friends, your college best friends, etc. Different people for different places, and for different points in your life. Picking one person and expecting them to be your everything, at all times, no matter what is a nice notion, but not only is it probably detrimental to their well-being, it could also leave you feeling a little lost when they're not around.

Your best friends are different from your regular friends. They know you on a deeper level, they're there for you under any and all circumstances, they're close with your family, and you can always count on them to show up. Why in the world would you want to limit that to one person?

People need other people. It's as simple as that, and anyone who tells you otherwise is probably pretty lonely. When your high school best friend goes to college on the other side of the country, you and s/he are both going to need a best friend (or two, or more) in closer proximity to help you through the hard times. And when you come home and reunite with your best friends, you are going to be glad you have people everywhere you go.

The gist of it all is that your life is going to be fuller when you have more people in it. More best friends mean more sleepovers, more dinner dates, more day trips, more concerts, more adventures, more pictures, more life.

So don't be afraid to have more than one best friend. Let more people into your life and your days will be brighter, I promise you.

Cover Image Credit: Annie Condodina

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Thanking the People I Could Never Thank Enough

Never forget to thank the most slaytastic people in your life.

This week, I went through the experience of a nervous breakdown. Stress that had built up from the previous week built up, and I ultimately succumbed to it. What I did realize in the midst of it, though, was that I have some pretty amazing people who love me. For that, I am eternally grateful, and I wanted to show them just how much they mean to me with this article.

Thank you to the people who never once questioned me.

This week, I questioned myself a lot. My innermost workings consisted of "what could I have done better in (insert here)?" But it was in the people that I surrounded myself with that never questioned who I was or what I did. It gave me a glimmer of hope in the midst of the darkness.

Thank you to the people who had my back.

I know that I can be a lot to handle at points. But there are people who have stood by me and never once said that I was too much. In this time, they were essential for being the light that got me out of my own long tunnel. As humans, we don't exactly know why people come into our lives or for what reason, just that they do. It makes me incredibly happy to have the people that saw beyond the outside mess and were willing to still love me.

Thank you to the people who intervened and got me help when I needed it.

I didn't know it when I was in the situation, but my breaking down was a desperate cry for help. I know now that the people who did this care so deeply about me. I am fortunate enough to have those friends that pulled me aside and said they would get me the help I needed.

Thank you to my haters for being my motivators.

Only kidding, just figured the people reading this would need a break in the sappiness.

Thank you for those who did not judge me when I was a mess.

I only saw myself in the mirror once over the course of my stress induced meltdown. However, when I did look in the mirror, I saw what a hot mess I really was. For those who did not judge me, I am so forever grateful. You built me up in moments when I felt low, and I cannot thank you enough for doing that. I am so lucky to have the friends that I do.

Thank you to the people who encouraged me to take part in some much needed self care.

In this day and age, it is so essential to do things because you like to do them. For me, my self care involves watching Gilmore Girls, painting, and sitting at the piano and just playing. When I do these things, the world around me becomes less intimidating.

There is so much more I could say, but it would take more than an Odyssey article to do so. I love you all.

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10 Ways To Spend Galentine's Day

A holiday as an excuse for a girls' day? Count me in.

Coined by Leslie Knope, Amy Poehler, in the sitcom Parks and Recreations, the holiday “Galentine’s Day” has been an up and coming celebration for women around the world. Starting as fiction, the holiday is a great excuse for girls to spend time with their friends, instead of boyfriends or husbands. Here are some fun ways to spend your girls day!

1. Going out to dinner

Take a girls night out and go to your favorite restaurant together. Being in your friends’ presence is much better than stressing over Valentine's Day chaos.

2. Bringing Chocolate

Chocolate is a major part of Valentines time of the year, and it tastes better getting it from a best friend than a guy! (Plus you can eat it as soon as you get it with no shame.)

3. Taking a Road Trip

Spending time with your girls in a parked car with music blasting is the best way to forget about boys who have done you wrong. Scream-singing old Taylor Swift can do wonders!

4.Going Out

Spending the night dancing with friends is the best way to clear your head from any stress of the week.

5. Having a movie night

Bundle up with as many pillows and blankets as possible and put on some romcoms. The best possible way to forget about boys is living vicariously through Rachel McAdams. Definitely throw in some girl power movies like Legally Blonde and The Princess Diaries!

6. Getting Gifts

The best way to show your best friends how much they mean to you is to bring their favorite candy, a new book or the shirt they have been eyeing in the mall.

7. Doing Makeovers

Having a relaxing day of facials followed by friends trying to put eyelashes on each other is a great way to bond with your friends. Don’t forget the nail polish!

8. Hyping Up Girls

Whenever you have an internal compliment about how nice a girl’s shirt is or how cute her jeans are, tell her! It will make any girl’s day, especially in the spirit of Galentine’s Day.

9. Having a Shopping Spree

Bring your besties to the mall and treat yourselves! Best way to feel girl power is wearing a brand new outfit after a great makeover.

10. Spa Day

While at home facials are great for bonding, there’s nothing like a professional giving you a massage and sitting in a sauna with your girls.

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