I will be the first to tell you how boring being single is. Having been with me, myself, and I for nearly 22 years on this earth, I understand. The endless 3rd, 5th, and 7th wheel hangout sessions with your friends. Crossing your fingers and hoping your friends don’t have plans with their significant other because you want to hang out with them. Not to mention the endless failed attempts to not-be-so-single.
But I’m not here to moan and groan about how terrible it is to be independent. I have come to enjoy it actually. For one reason in particular, I’ve decided I’m done looking for someone. While being around everyone in a relationship and being an observer, there has been a sickening pattern: lying and cheating.
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Let me lay out two scenarios for you:
The ‘I Didn’t Mean To’
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We hear about it more often than we should. Someone cheating on their spouse and either separating or ‘working through it’. But I can’t figure out why it happens in the first place. You get drunk one night and the cutie at the other end of the bar is giving you heart eyes, you just can’t stop yourself. I mean, your other half back at home isn’t there for you. You have to get it somewhere right? You’ll tell them it was just one time. And you’ll be forgiven, because it won’t happen again. So what do you do when it happens again?
The ‘Pretending to be Single’
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You’re hanging out with some friends but your significant other is with their friends. You two won’t be together tonight. Kissing a random person won’t hurt anything. When they ask if you’re in a relationship, you say no. Neither will find out. How would they? It will hurt nothing.
I don’t understand why people stay in relationships, friendships, or anything if they aren’t happy. It would be a lot more simple for everyone if you just ended it. Lying about being single just to get a piece makes absolutely no sense. They’ll find out eventually. Not only does it create a bad reputation for yourself but the one you’re cheating with will blame themselves for believing you would actually be a truthful and good person.
Dragging someone you ‘care about’ through the mud is so disrespectful. Sleeping around on the one you ‘love’ not only puts yourself at risk but it puts the one you’re lying to at risk as well and they don’t even know. All I’m saying is just because it might be hard to end something doesn’t mean it’s okay to lie. If you’re just going to cheat on your boyfriend or girlfriend, just break up with them.
It would hurt people a lot less if everyone was just honest and upfront. If you’re being cheated on, leave them. Stand up for yourself because you’re worth more than someone that doesn’t respect you enough to be faithful to you.