I get it, I have been there. I am the invest everything, go all in kind of person in a relationship. I love love, and thrive off of the sparks I feel where he traced my skin, or how my stomach feels when I see him smiling at me. It is like an addiction in some ways, and with the first one, I fell way too hard, and fell ten times harder when he left me. I look back on the time I spent being sad and feeling incomplete and it frustrates me now. Even though I am all for the romantics and finding your person, you need to know your worth, and accept when someone is not meant for you.

It seems that the standards these days are pretty low, and a lot of us settle for someone who gives us the time of day. Come on. With my last relationship, I saw potential, despite our differences, and he was at least mildly interested in trying to have some semblance of a future. However, he didn't like to talk about it much (because the future is so far away)(lol okay), and wanted to party and get drunk all the time. Honestly, more power to him. It took him three years to be that forward with me, but I am glad he finally did it. If that is what he wants, then that is great, but I would've left a long time ago had I known.

There is this misconception that because you are young, it is socially acceptable to not have your life figured out, or to even be attempting to figure it out. It is okay to not have a job, and it is okay to spend your parent's money, and it is okay to be lazy and whiny.

Um, no?

Since I was dumped five months ago, I have taken the GRE in preparation for grad school, more than doubled my savings, picked up photography and videography, had my first paid photoshoot, went on a blind date (never thought I would do that), been working on my website, spent more time with my friends, fell in love with my body, and will be officially starting a business next week. This is not to brag about me, but to show how much damn time you have to get shit done when you aren't spending it on the couch with a man.

Now, if you have one, I hope he is a good one with a little motivation, but if not, leave his ass and start making moves. This world is yours, and no penis is worth missing out on it.