Why Writers Love Harder Than Anyone Else

Why Writers Love Harder Than Anyone Else

Writers understand human emotion more than anyone else because they have already experienced those emotions through writing.

Stories have been told since the beginning of mankind. Stories can be passed down and others are forgotten. Some are unheard of and some are a household name. Either way, every story was created by some creative genius to make you feel something, and change your life slightly after you see what they can do.

Writers are creative geniuses themselves, and they are some of the few in the world who truly understand the concept of human emotion. Any article of writing, popular or not, informative or persuasive, fiction or nonfiction, has a whole heart put into it.

Alongside the plot, which is typically the “A story” there is almost always some sort of love story working behind the scenes which is called the “B story.” The B story can be romantic love, friendship love, or rebuilding some sort of relationship type of love. Either way, at the end of the story the two characters come to terms with each other. It doesn’t matter what genre you may be reading or writing, authors from everywhere have to understand the ever-changing concept of love. For example, in James Patterson’s "Maximum Ride" series, Max and Fang fall in love among the whole series. J.K. Rowling’s "Harry Potter," Ron and Hermione fall in love throughout the books, and then obviously Nicholas Sparks novels (but that one is a given).

As writers write about love in their story, they are already fantasizing what could be, and what can become of two individuals. They see the character as if it were themselves, feeling the emotions they feel, and living the character's lives within their minds. They know what they are thinking when they start to love, and know how much it hurts when love falls apart. Writers understand what they are going through, because they are creating the story themselves.

When it comes to real life, writers know how to deal with the emotions. They know what could be real and what could be fake. Writers understand human emotion more than anyone else because they have already experienced those emotions through writing.

Writers love hard because they understand feelings much better than others and feel it deeper than anyone else because the feelings become much more intense when described with words. Seeing and knowing characters that feel the way they do, makes the writing much deeper and makes the real-life feelings much more powerful.

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Signs You're An INFJ, The World's Rarest Personality Type

INFJ, from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator instrument, is believed to be the rarest personality type, and to make up less than 2% of the population. Oh, and I am one.

INFJ, referring to one of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types, has become a bit of a buzzword in the media over the past several years. The reason behind it: INFJ is considered to be the rarest personality type, making up less than 2% of the world's entire population. They are labeled as "The Advocate," and have been described as "mysterious," "intuitive," and "emotionally intelligent," yet the type as a whole is often misunderstood.

Oh, and I am one. Perhaps you are, as well.

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test, created in the 1940's by mother and daughter, Isabel Myers and Katharine Briggs, originally stems from the typological theories of Carl Jung, a prominent psychoanalyst. The test assesses an individual in 4 categories: Extroversion vs. Introversion, Sensing vs. Intuition, Thinking vs. Feeling, and Judging vs. Perceiving, and using these criteria, determines which category one’s personality most tilts toward. INFJs would be those individuals whose personalities favor the sides of Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging.

INFJs can be difficult to spot due to the fact that they are not prevalent in society and tend to be reserved individuals. However, INFJs make fiercely loyal friends, empathetic and organized workers, and exceptional leaders for causes they deem worthy and for the greater good of humanity.

INFJs often report feeling lonely and "different," and for good reason. INFJs are low in numbers so they tend to have trouble finding others who see the world in the same realm as they do. Most people who are this type have admitted feeling different from their peers since they were a very young child.

INFJs take an all-or-nothing approach to life. INFJs, a curious mix of emotional and logical, do not like to waste their time on anything inauthentic. Although they may dabble with playing the field, INFJs are truly about quality over quantity and will become disinterested in anyone or anything they perceive as being fraudulent, scheming or wishy-washy.

INFJs exude warmness, and others immediately feel comfortable in their presence. It is not uncommon for a stranger to sit down next to an INFJ and within minutes, disclose their most personal secrets, fears and dreams. In fact, this happens frequently to INFJs with seemingly no rhyme or reason. This personality type has a knack for making others immediately feel at ease, and they are great listeners and trusted confidants who speak in human terms and meet others where they are.

INFJs are somewhat empathic, and they tend to "just know" things. One of my favorite one-liners from Game of Thrones is by the character, Tyrion Lannister, "I drink and I know things," and this can often be said of an INFJ, with maybe fewer libations. INFJs have a highly-accurate sense of intuition that they have been sharpening for all of their lives. Without understanding exactly why or how, an INFJ will see, within minutes of meeting an individual, their true character. As a result, they tend to be more forgiving of their friends who exhibit unruly behavior because they can identify the true root of the behavior, such as insecurities or past trauma.

INFJs ultimately seek genuine truth and meaning. This personality type does not care one iota about grandiose tales or extravagant gestures if there is not a true and genuine motive behind them. An INFJ’s calling in life is to seek insight and understanding, and as they develop, they often can spot a lie or half-truth in a moment's notice. If they believe an individual to be a phony or a manipulator, they will have no trouble writing them off. Likewise, this type often enjoys traveling, adventures and experiences that heighten their understanding of the intricacies of life and promote self-reflection.

INFJs are true introverts, yet people not very close to them believe them to be extroverts. This happens because INFJs can be social chameleons and have an innate ability to blend in in any social setting. The INFJ can be the life of the party for a night or two, showcasing their inviting nature and vivaciousness. However, this is never prolonged because, in introverted-fashion, they lose energy from others. Those close to an INFJ know that this type prefers bars over clubs and barbecues over balls, and can give a speech to thousands of people but cringes at the idea of mingling with the crowd afterward. Eventually, this type will need to retreat home for some quiet time to "recharge their batteries," or they will become very on-edge and exhausted.

INFJs have intense, unwavering convictions, sometimes to a fault. An INFJ has certain ideas about the world and a need to foster change in society. These are deep-seated and intense beliefs that they will never abandon. If a career, relationship, or law does not align with their moral compass, an INFJ will have no qualms about ignoring it or leaving it in the dust.

INFJs tend to keep a small circle of friends and prefer to work alone. Although an INFJ may have hundreds of acquaintances, if they call you a "friend," you can be sure that they mean it for life. This type can count their close friends on a set of fingers and they will be loyal and devoted to these prized individuals no matter how much time passes between their interactions. An INFJ can be a great team player but the idea of group projects and collaboration meetings naturally make them sink down in their seat. These are people who enjoy working from home or in a quaint office with a handful of like-minded coworkers.

INFJs cannot stand small talk. This trait aligns with the need to pursue truth and all things bona fide. To an INFJ, small talk not only takes energy, but has little purpose as it is merely speaking to fill silence without revealing any deeper layers of the individuals involved. Do not talk to an INFJ about the weather unless you want to see a glazed-over look. Instead, tell them about the causes you are promoting, the wish-list of your soul, or the way you smile every time you smell lavender because it reminds you of your great grandmother.

INFJs are typically high-achievers and people-pleasers. If you want a task done right the first time, hand it over to an INFJ. They will plan every detail down to the minute and will always deliver a glowing finished product. However, when delivering criticism to this type, do it gently, as they take every word to heart and are always striving for perfection. This type is a unique blend of a dreamer and a doer, but they can easily fall prey to extreme bouts of anxiety or depression centered on feelings of inadequacy or failure.

INFJs are gifted in language and are often creative writers. In accordance with their introverted nature, INFJs prefer to spend time alone and develop enriched inner-lives with many hobbies and skills. This type has trouble conveying their emotions verbally, so they turn to pen and paper. This, combined with their creative nature, leaves no surprise that the majority of successful writers are, in fact, INFJs.

INFJs make decisions based off of emotion and insight. An INFJ judges the world around them and the people in it based off of how they make them feel. This type does not care about track records and performance history, instead they look for the heart of the matter and how a person or company treats them personally. This type will trust their "gut feeling" about a situation and go with that, which has almost always proven to be accurate.

INFJs like to reflect on deep thoughts about their purpose and the world around them. This type is a thinker. INFJs are old-souls who spend a lot of time in their own minds reflecting on their purpose and the meaning behind everything that happens to them. They are often readers, researchers and intellectuals who truly enjoy learning. Although this is a noble endeavor, it is essential that the INFJ has friends, typically of the extroverted type, who can help them to be less serious and relax every now and then.

INFJs are visionaries who always see the big picture. This type tends to always operate about ten steps ahead. They are skilled planners and focus their sights on the end goal and what is needed to propel them there. However, while INFJs are off in dreamland about their futures, they can sometimes forget to be present in the world that is happening now. As a result, they do well with other more grounded types who can remind them to live in the moment.

INFJs are "fixers," and they gravitate towards people who need help. This type loves a good fixer-upper and with their ability to see the "good bones" of another person, their true motives and intentions, and to readily provide comfort and compassion, they fall victim to the Broken Wing Theory, or the idea that they can rescue others who have a "broken wing," or who have been dealt a poor hand. This can be rewarding for the hopeful INFJ but also frustrating and depleting when boundaries are overstepped.

INFJs seek lifelong, true-blue relationships. This type usually finds themselves with intuitive extroverts, such as the ENTPs, ENFPs, and ENFJs. These types connect with the INFJ on the deeper plane of intuition, yet also will get the INFJ out of their own heads and out on the town on a Saturday night.

Think you might be an INFJ? Find out which type you are here: https://www.mbtionline.com/.

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What The Way You Organize Your Schedule Says About You

And some tips on how to change up your schedule writing style.


Now that the New Year has started, time to start making some resolutions. While most people want to work out more, eat healthier, and get more sleep, I, personally, want to get my schedule more.

With so many ways to organize your life, which way do you choose? Do you want to go the more traditional route, and use a planner? Or do you want to see the big picture with a giant wall calendar? But, more importantly, what does the way you organize your schedule say about you?

1. Planner

You're traditional and by the book. Your planner is fully packed, from the exam you have next week that you've already started studying for, to brunch with your bestie tomorrow. You're the organizational queen and we should all take notes (like you do in your planner).

If you want to start using a planner: get in the habit of writing in it every day. Once you get into the habit of using it will become second nature! If you keep putting it off, you have a very useless blank book by the end of the year.

2. Online

You're super tech savvy. You have the latest versions of all of your gadgets, and the newest software updates to match. Google calendar or self-created on excel? Doesn't matter, it's just impressive that you could work your way around a computer. While you're at it, wanna help me set up my Facebook?

If you want an online calendar: Here's a template specifically for UA students that you can customize to your liking!

My Google Docs template.

3. Wall Calendar

You like to see the big picture. Just a quick glance in the morning and you know what you've gotta get done for the day. You don't focus on the details of life, like the exact time you're eating lunch, and you don't always have an exact plan, but you always have an end goal and you reach it.

If you want to start keeping a wall calendar: Write your bigger events on there like exams, meetings, events in order for it to not become jumbled and messy so you can actually use it!

4. Post-Its

You're flexible and you like your schedule to be that way as well. Whether it's sticking it to your chem notebook or your keys, your schedule moves with you. You don't like to be tied down, whether that's to a single location to write your schedule in or life in general, and you like to change it up, like the colors of your Post-Its to your daily routine.

If you want to use Post-Its: Write things you want to get done for the day; if you have a list of tasks you want to accomplish in front of your face you're more likely to complete them.

5. On your hand

You're resourceful and your hand was just right there. You just remembered you have that soccer practice at 3? Group project meeting at 6? Jot that down on your hand, and you'll see it all day, unlike that planner or piece of paper thrown in your bag. Just don't scrub too hard when you go to wash your hands later.

If you want to start writing on your hand: Just make sure you don't have anywhere important to be, as writing on your hand doesn't look too professional.

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