As I lay in bed with a horrible, annoying cold this summer (yes, a cold in the summer, I don’t know how it happened either), I decided to re-watch "Gilmore Girls" from start to finish. I originally watched it over winter break this past year, but with the official revision date finally released (November 25), I decided to revisit Stars Hollow.

This, of course, has reignited my involvement in Rory Gilmore’s love life, and in true "Gilmore Girl" fan fashion, I have my own opinions on who she should end up with in the revival. For those curious, I am about 50 percent team Logan, 50 percent team Jess and 100 percent not team Dean.

But that’s not the point. Re-watching the show reminded me of something Alexis Bledel said a few weeks ago regarding Rory’s love life and everyone’s obsession about who she ends up with in the revival.

“I think it’s kind of interesting that that’s what people are excited about. There is so much more to her character. It’s great when people focus on her ambition and her accomplishments.” – Alexis Bledel

This statement really spoke to me in the sense that she is extremely right. As a society, we really do focus so much on the relationships in TV shows and movies, sometimes and usually more than anything else.

To name a few: Nathan and Haley, Brooke and Julian, Elena and Damon, Blair and Chuck, Liam and Annie, Allie and Noah, Luke and Lorelai. The list really could go on forever.

I am just as guilty as the next guy for doing this, idolizing these completely fake, perfect television couples and it wasn’t until Alexis Bledel made that remark that I realized how ridiculous this is.

We need to realize that nothing on the big screen (or laptop screen) is real. Television relationships are so unreal, so why should we idolize them or wish we could find our own Chuck, Nate, Logan, Dean or Luke. What we seem to forget, or really just fail to notice, is the lying, cheating, fighting and upsetting moments these couples may have. In each of the couples I listed above, the ones that seem so perfect and the ones that BuzzFeed has named the best couples on television, there have been arguments, scandals and many more imperfect moments that would so not fly in real life.

Yet, we seem to ignore these and just go back to idolizing them and wishing we were them. Don’t we all want to have a love like Blair and Chuck? But do we really want a boyfriend who sleeps around with other girls or who sells you for a hotel? Or do we want a boyfriend like Dean, who yes, gets together with Rory, but who simultaneously cheats on his wife while doing so?

I don’t think so. Everything is all glittery and good on the screen, and it is created in a way that directly appeals to the viewer and the audience. It is specifically tailored to make an audience fall in love with these people, and we fall for it. We fall for it so easily and usually without even a second thought. We are a generation of couple “shippers,” which is totally fine, up until we start wishing we had these unrealistic relationships and letting things go in our own relationships because it seems OK on screen with these fake couples.

Alexis Bledel is right, we shouldn’t be focusing so much on who Rory ends up with in the upcoming revival, but rather we should be focusing on what her life is like now, how her campaign journalism went, her current career, her family life and much more. Yes, we can be curious about where her relationships stand, but that should only be a snippet of our curiosity, not the full blown reason for our interest.

By no means am I going to stop having my favorite television couples or completely disregard all on screen relationships, but rather, I am going to take a step back and ask myself questions like, “Why do I like this couple? What kind of relationship do they have? Is this a healthy relationship to be idolizing?” And of course, I will focus on the many other aspects of a character and a storyline, not just who ends up with whom in the end.