I'm not sure why people are so fixated on their significant other's sexual history. It seems like it's a critical question when starting to get serious with someone. It could make or break a couple, even if everything seemed to be going great. So why even risk it?

How many people have you slept with? Who were they? Were they one night stands? Is our sex better? The list of prying and uncomfortable questions can go on, and on.

There is actually no reason we need to know this information. I'm really not even sure why anyone would want to know the answers. Is that really something you want to think about? We tend to let our imaginations run loose, so the less information we know the better.

Don't get me wrong, I think in reference to STDs or STIs the information should be disclosed. And if for whatever reason you decided to hide that part of your sexual history from your partner, than you're a seriously careless person. But anymore information than that is just nosy. Curiosity killed the cat, don't let it kill your relationship.

A lot of the time, when you ask someone about their sexual history—the answer is a lie. It's a proven fact that girl's tend to lie about their 'number' because they don't want to feel judged. So, in all honestly, who even knows if the information you're receiving is correct?

Lying about the 'number' is practically guaranteed to happen. Back when I actually felt like this information mattered, my then boyfriend told me he had only slept with two people—which turned out to be over ten. So, what was the point?

There isn't a point. Whether they tell you a lie or not: Why do you even need to know?

You don't.

Even if your partner is 100% comfortable telling you how many people they've been with, are you actually ever going to be happy with the number you hear? Apparently, according to this study, the "perfect" number of past partners is 10. That's a pretty specific number, so I'm sure not many of us have landed right on that. And how many of us actually feel like 10 is the perfect number? Probably not a lot.

Are you going to sit around trying to decide if a number of one night stands is worse than a number of regular sexual encounters? I'm not even really sure how anyone would be able to come up with a hierarchy for all situations possible. But honestly, if that's your kind of thing—good luck to you (and your partner).

Literally nobody should have to feel like their sexual history is a deal breaker when it comes to a new relationship. We change over time. We make choices. Plenty of people go through a wild, sex crazed stage. And plenty of people rather wait for the right person. Who's to say that one choice is better than the other?

At the end of the day, as long as your sexual preferences match up once together, anything from before is completely irrelevant. If you both are down for respecting each other's decisions when it comes to the activities in the bedroom, I'm not really sure what you're worried about?

Honestly, tons of people have a hard enough time finding a significant other who isn't going to end up in someone else's bed. So if that's not an issue in your relationship be thankful for it, instead of worrying about all the little details of what happened before you.

Some number doesn't define you, or your partner—so stop letting it.