This is for all of you eager PNMs (potential new members if you don't know the lingo yet) who are about to go through the beautiful monster that is sorority rush. You're nervous, you're excited, and you've been shopping for each day's outfits for weeks.
So here I am to tell you that rush itself doesn't matter.
You hear the horror stories of girls that are dropped from rush after each voting session, but where do you think they are now? Still curled up in a ball of tears eating Insomnia Cookies? I can tell you right now they aren't. They are having the time of their lives in college working on their degree, studying abroad in Europe, and making an impact on campus.
Let's say that you make it to the end of the week, your feet are blistered, your voice sounds like you smoke 2 packs a day, and it is time to decide on your house. You have this one choice and that will be the sorority you are a part of until the end of time. Choose wrong and it will be the biggest mistake of your life. Except it won't. Regardless of the sorority you choose, you will meet girls that you genuinely have a woman crush on. You will also meet girls who you would rather not refer to as your sister. Big or small, you will love some things about your sorority, and you will hate some things about it. That's just the way that any group of people works. That's life.
So you can't put so much weight on choosing a sorority, or not choosing one. The reason that so many people have great testimonies about their sorority experiences is because they joined a group of people that they enjoyed spending their time with. The thing that makes your college experience great is being a part of something that you love. Greek organizations are not the best groups on campus as much as they would like you to believe.
The important thing going into college, regardless of rush, is to have your eyes open. Look beyond the things that seem so important at the moment. Be open to new people and new experiences. If you love one sorority over another, don't listen to anyone who discourages you. If you say screw rush and want to be involved in something else, your friends(at least the real ones) will still be with you. It doesn't matter what you choose, if you can look back and say that you loved what you did, nothing else matters.
Don't get me wrong, there are some pretty incredible experiences that I have had purely because of my sorority, but had I not joined, I would still be having the time of my life in college.