A majority of younger people are in relationships that have cost them friendships, cost them family relationships, and cost them their happiness. A majority of younger people start dating someone and forget about the friends they grew up with. They forget about people who they have trusted for years. They stop socializing with people who were once their best friends. And they stop living for themselves. All they do is live for the person they are dating. This is why relationships suck and the questions on why people keep trying.

Relationships are a lot of work. Sadly, the work involved in a relationship is typically a one-sided street. One person puts all the effort into making it work and the other person sits back and does nothing. One person gets upset and angry when they aren't getting the affection they want and crave and the other person sits back and acts like they don't have a care in the world. In any relationship there is going to be work. But sadly, as the relationship grows older, the people involved get more comfortable, get lazier, stop making the same effort, stop talking to each other, stop being friends and after awhile it becomes nothing more than a convenience.

On social media it's perfect. To their friends their relationship looks great. But behind closed doors the couples don't talk, they don't have sex, they don't have affection and most times they don't even sleep in the same room. But people keep trying. Relationships take a lot of time, a lot of effort, and a lot of energy. Sadly it involves one person putting the effort in and the other person acting like it doesn't matter, they don't care about the person who keeps trying and they don't do anything to help make it better. And this is why relationships suck and the questions on why people keep trying.

In life, everyone wants that perfect person. They want their soulmate. They want a person to cuddle up with on the couch, to talk to at dinner, to share their daily life with, to tell their secrets to, and to show their affection to. Sadly the effort is made by one person while the other one sits back and doesn't do anything. The one person cares, they get angry, they get upset, and they get frustrated because the other person doesn't care. They get angry and disappointed because things aren't the way they should be. The person doesn't care. They don't ask about their day. They don't show emotion. They don't show affection. They don't put the same effort into the relationship. And they walk around pretending everything is perfect and they don't have a care in the world.

This is why relationships suck and the questions on why people even keep trying.

In a relationship there should be a friendship. There should be conversation. There should be affection. There should be happiness. There should be love. There should be energy. There should be hand holding. There should be romance. There should be no secrets. There should be a special feeling when you see that person for the first time that day or that week. There should be a special feeling when you go to bed at night. There should be that warm and fuzzy feeling when you are cuddling on the couch with the person that is supposed to mean the world to you. But sadly, it doesn't happen. People get comfortable over time. They stop trying. They stop talking. They stop sharing special days. They stop telling each other about their feelings. They stop being happy together. They stop being friends. They just stop. And this is why relationships suck and the questions on why people even keep trying.

A relationship is supposed to be fun. The couples should be going to movies. They should be going to dinner. They should be talking about having kids if they are younger. They should be talking about their friends. They should be talking about their futures. They should be talking about themselves. As the relationships grow, the couples should be sharing more emotional conversations. They should share their feelings. They should share their days. They should make the same effort as each other does. They should talk about things. And more than anything they should care.

Couples don't do this. They can post pretty pictures on social media. They can post funny stories about things in the past. They can share stories about their relationships. They can talk to their friends about their kids. They can share things about their jobs. And they can tell everyone how great things are. And when they get home? They sleep in different rooms. They don't talk to each other. They don't have sex. They don't cuddle. They don't share anything personal. There is no intimacy. There is nothing. They live in different worlds, walk different paths, have different friends, and they don't show they care.

So many people in relationships lie. They have their own friends. They cheat. They have other partners. They live through convenience. They don't go through the motions of separating or divorcing because it's easier to live in the same house and to simply not talk to each other. It's easier to not deal with lawyers, child support, custody of the children, splitting property and worse yet, screwing up the fake image they've spent so many years to maintain.

Couples don't seem to find the happiness they crave. Some do. It is true. But the few that do it is few and far between. Most couples stop sharing friends. They stop sharing secrets. They stop sharing their lives. And after a lot of years together, couples simply go through the motions because it's easier than going through the battles.

This is why relationships suck. And the questions on why people keep trying.

If you have a relationship that works? Keep it. If you have a partner that you are happy with? Keep them. If you are in a situation that you've found happiness? Don't ever let it go. If you've found the soulmate that you've been looking for? Hold on tight and don't ever let them get away.

I couldn't tell you what that's like. I haven't known that feeling for years. And this is why relationships suck and the questions on why people keep trying.