I'm The Girl Who Will ALWAYS Put 'Sisters Before Misters'

I'm The Girl Who Will ALWAYS Put 'Sisters Before Misters'

In the future, I know that when I start dating I won't forget that my best girl friends come first.

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As Valentine's Day comes up next month, and I am sitting on a couch watching a Buzzfeed Unsolved marathon of season one of "True Crime" and "Supernatural," I think back to the past year and my history with my love life. The more I think about it, the more I am fine with it.

Nothing major has happened. I still haven't had my first kiss, or my first significant other, still a virgin, and all is fine.

This can be seen as a follow up to my article where I talked about how I am 19, never had a significant other, and I am still having the time of my life. Now, as I am in a new decade of my life (yes, I'm talking about my twenties), nothing much has changed.

But now I am in a point where I am sticking with a phrase. That phrase is the well-known "sisters before misters."

A feminine play on the phrase "bros before hoes," where male friends say that their friends come first and any significant other, specifically female, comes second, "sisters before misters" means that female friends come first before any significant others, specifically of the male species. A majority of my friends are girls and while I do also have friends that are guys (hi, Sean and Josh), I know that I will never think of dating them in the future as they are like brothers to me.

But I know that when I get into my first relationship, I will definitely make time for my friends.

A while ago, I was (maybe still am) texting a guy that is close friends with one of my other close friends. My friend and I have established that if I were to get into a relationship with this guy, she knows that she can trust him with me (but if he hurts me, then he is dead). But another thing that we had established was that I was hers first and then his second, no matter how many times he said I was his, and even I said that she came first hands down.

Yes, I know that I have been single for 20 years of my life. Yes, I also dabbled a bit in dating apps like Tinder and sometimes Bumble. I only went back to Tinder after a year of not having, but after the small dabble I did in 2018 I decided to stop doing Tinder. But I still have it just in case (or if I am just a bored college student and I have nothing to do in my life which I definitely do have the stuff to do in my life).

But as time goes on for me, and I continue to get older and go through the rest of my college career, I do not know when I will find my quote-unquote "one." It could be during college, or it could be after college and I meet my one and only at my place of work (where my parents met), but I would just know that I will make sure to place my lady friends that have been there for a good point of my life first.

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11 Ways You Found The Cristina To Your Meredith

"We're friends, real friends, and that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally decide to look back, I'll still be here."
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The term "my person" describes the relationship between two people who have reached the highest level of friendship. They're people who have ridden the roller coaster of life together for so long that their lives would be boring without each other. In "Grey's Anatomy," the characters of Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang describe each other as each other's "person." They have a perfect friendship. Everyone (including myself) strives to achieve a friendship like theirs. What is it like to have "your person?"


1. Your person will tell it like it is.

If you think that your new haircut looks bad or if that dress makes you look fat, your person is always there to reassure you that nobody cares.


2. Your person is always on your team.

Whether it's an argument between you and your parents or you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, your person will always be there. They will go to bat for you 10/10 times and they will always be there to have your back.


3. Your person will celebrate the small victories with you.

Did you go an entire day without crying? Awesome, let's celebrate! Did you eat something other than chocolate chip cookies for breakfast? That's wonderful! The small victories count the most.


4. They will listen to you, even when you are ranting about the craziest things.

Let's face it, we have all been there. When it's late at night and we're laying in bed, thinking of the world's hardest questions, and you start to think about crazy scenarios, your person is always there to listen.


5. People instantly think that you and your person are a couple.

You aren't a couple, you just understand each other on a much higher level, so people think that you guys are in a relationship. Just go with it.


6. Your person isn't afraid to tell you that they are embarrassed by you.

Everyone gets embarrassed about each other at one point or another. Most people just pretend that it doesn't happen. Your person is going to flat out tell you that your actions and the things that you say embarrass the crap out of them.


7. Your person isn't afraid to knock you down a few notches.

Just when you think that you are on top of the world, your person will come and pop the growing balloon known as your head. They aren't afraid to snap you back into reality.


8. They will build you up faster than they will tear you down.

Yes, they will bring you back to reality and tell you like it is, but they will also be the first one to encourage you and to tell you how wonderful you are.


9. Your person is not afraid to call your bluff.

They will call you out on your BS and make you tell them how you really feel, so they can help fix you.


10. You stick together no matter what.

Even though you get mad at each other, or don't speak for a few days, you will always stick together.


11. In the end, no matter what, no matter who comes in and out of your life, your person will always be your person.

Your person is there no matter what. They care when no one else does and they are always there to hold your hand.

Find your person and never let them go. They are your best friend, your worst enemy, and your biggest critic, but they know you better than you know yourself sometimes.

As for my "person," you know who you are. I love you and couldn't do life without you.

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be A Dirty Rotten Cheater

Now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you.

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I just spent the last week with my jaw on the floor after the discovery that my best friend spent the better part of 2 years with a guy who was actually cheating ( a lot ) basically the entire length of their relationship. And now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you. If you encounter any of the following 5 signs, then girl you better get the hell outta dodge.

1. You NEVER get the invite to family gatherings.

Holidays

Brunch with the fam? He's not calling you. Christmas Eve at Aunt Sheryl's? He's not calling you. His sister's birthday party? He's definitely not calling you. It may not seem like a big deal at first, but if he has met your mom, your dad, and your cousins and still isn't inviting you to come along, it's probably because he doesn't want his mom to get confused that he had a totally different girl over last week.

2. He can't stand you being anywhere near his phone.

Cheater's Phone

I would think this one is an obvious red flag, but you'd be surprised how many people believe guys who say they just want you to "respect their privacy." If he is constantly texting, snapping and shoving his phone into his pocket immediately after hitting that lock screen, you may very well be in for a world of hurt. If it's going off at 2 AM, well girl, I shouldn't have to say more to convince you he's cheating.

3. You rarely go out in public.

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I know, I know, he's told you a hundred times that he's just a homebody and would rather be snuggled up watching "Catfish" with you than going out anywhere, but that's probably because he is just scared you guys will run into his other girlfriend. If you do end up going out, it's always out of town or something loud and crowded like a concert where you guys would be hard to spot.

4. He NEVER wants to post about you two on social media.

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He says stuff like "Oh, I just don't feel the need to publicize our love." or maybe "I have a crazy ex and I don't want her to harass you online." Those are both actually just lies. What he really wants to say is "I just don't want evidence and time stamps of our relationship in case I get caught." The best is when they tell you about how they like girls who are off the grid. Sounds like a cheater to me...

5. He's constantly accusing you of cheating.

Accusing

Most girls I know will chalk this up to him just being a jealous guy. But let me tell you something honey, nothing makes you more paranoid than a guilty conscious. If every time you two argue, it divulges into him saying he's not sure if he can trust you or that you have too many guy friends or that he wonders what you're doing on nights without him, well he's probably just manifesting his own fears.

There are no promises here that he is definitely cheating, and if you really trust your man then more power to you. But if any of these signs had you thinking about your own relationship, then I highly recommend that you move on to the next one girl. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, even fish who won't cheat on you!

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