I recently watched a video saying that self-proclaimed nice guys suck and are always expecting something in return. I watched maybe a minute of this video before turning it off and thought, “You know, maybe some guys are nice at first but aren’t after they find out who you go after.”

I’ll be honest, I’m not the best looking or most athletic guy. I’m 6'1", which is a good height but when you first see me, there isn’t anything in my appearance that makes you stop and take a second look. I built my legacy on being the nice guy and I never looked at it as a bad thing. So why should all the other guys look at it the way people look at skunks? Being nice will pay off but like other things in life, we have to be patient and just like Leslie Odom Jr. "Wait for It."

If you have seen in any of my previous articles it hasn’t been easy for me relationship wise but each time I have stated that I wanted to change one thing about me it seemed like hundreds of people were there to tell me to stay the way I am. I know that when we see that guy who we know is a jerk getting all the girls and we are stuck in the friend zone it doesn’t sit well with us but that shouldn’t be any indication to change who you are.

Sometimes it is better just to be that friend who can be the shoulder to lean on. As I grew up more of my friends have become like family to me and many of my friends who are girls have become more of like my other sisters. At the end of the day, you learn that it is better to have someone in your life as a friend rather than as a girlfriend because you are afraid of losing them.

There are many people I have wanted to be with at first but over time I have learned it is better to have them as a friend who will always be there for you.

Growing up I was always known as just the nice guy. If you ever asked one of my friends what I was they would talk about my heart or how much I care. At first, I thought this was something you say when people don’t have anything to truly say about you but over time I realized that’s who I am. There is nothing wrong with being the nice guy, in fact, I think personality and being kind and caring is what gives people successful relationships.

There are many people that I have at first said I can picture myself being with you but after a while, I realize that might not be the case and there is nothing wrong with that. Finding the one for you takes patience but it is also up to us to stay true to ourselves. If you think that changing yourself will be the right thing for a girl that shouldn’t be the case. If someone wants to be with us they should like us for who we are whether we are the biggest goofball out there.

Not all guys are going to be the nice guys but there isn’t anything wrong with being the nice guy. I know we are used to hearing the phrase nice guys finish last but in reality, there is always room for more nice guys in this world. If someone ever tells you that being nice is the wrong thing to do, then you need to follow your heart.

At the end of the day, I would choose to be the nice guy and have people call me the nice guy rather than be the guy people always complain about.