Have you ever been in a relationship that drove you crazy? Maybe a relationship that you couldn’t seem to realize that it’s more harm than good? Well, for starters, let me just fill you in on my experience. A long time ago now, I became friends with a seemingly genuine guy. After a few years of friendship,we both had established feelings for each other. We were going steady for a year before we broke up for the first time. That first year meant everything to me. However, let it be known that you can DEFINITELY become blinded when you really like a person. Boy oh boy, let me tell you, I was most certainly blinded. Anyway, carrying on. After years of dating on and off, I finally realized, just about three months ago, that I am better off not having him in my life. If I kept him in my life I would just be doing more emotional damage to myself. I was able to finally see that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. Personally, I feel that everyone’s definition of emotional abuse can vary. It depends on the person and how much they tolerate. While I was dating off and on, I would keep telling myself that is was okay to go back to a cheater and a manipulator. This truly shut any self-confidence I had right down the drain. The sad part was that I could not even see it.

Looking back over the last four years of my life, I realized that there was a lesson I needed to learn. Since that relationship ended for the very last and final time, I have been slowly repairing and fixing everything I allowed to break. Life lessons are definitely not fun, but I am so glad that I was able to recognize one of them and grow from it. Often times we do not always see what we need to learn. Life lessons are missed daily because we are just in denial, or we are too blinded to recognize it. However, with all that being said, I am still learning everyday how to fix the things I allow him to tear down. My joy, self-confidence, and thinking was all altered because I was blinded by what I could not even see. Knowing that I was able to get out of something unhealthy means a lot to me. Even though it took me years to see what I needed to see, I’m glad I can look back and know that I’m not where I was just a few months ago. So to everyone reading this, when you spot a life lesson in your life, choose to embrace it, because unfortunately, the best lessons in life are learned through pain. Once you recognize them you’ll be right on track and you’ll start to be able to feel better too.