Over the course of the past year, I have had the privilege to become friends with several people who are of a completely different culture and religion than me. I mean, I’ve always had friends and known people who weren’t quite like me, but becoming best friends with those of a different culture has really opened my eyes to not only the diversity present in the world but also the importance of putting yourself out there and being eager to learn new things. So in order to delve even deeper into the culture, I decided to go to their cultural night and share some of the things I learned from the experience.

At first, people might not understand why someone who isn’t a part of their culture wants to take part in their event. They might be confused as to the reasoning and just not be used to others caring about their culture who aren’t well, a part of that culture. But once they see that you actually just think it’s cool and want to learn, they are super receptive and eager to share all the things that mean so much to them.

And once you actually start learning about it, you’ll realize that certain things (like the fact that at South East Asian weddings the bride and groom don’t kiss!) are definitely not going to make sense. When I found out that the bride and groom don’t often kiss in other cultures on their wedding day--I’m not even going to lie--I thought that was crazy. But that’s what the whole point of this experience is right? Learning new things and more importantly, learning not to judge.

When you attend an event by a different cultural community, there are three things I recommend doing: trying the food, learning a cultural dance or ceremony and dressing up in their clothing. Even if the food seems gross, give it a try. Food and cooking are two major parts of culture and if you don’t understand why they eat certain things, you’re missing out. Participating in a cultural dance or ceremony is also a big one. I mean, it’s one thing to go to the cultural night and watch performances but it’s completely different to try and take part in one.

I was able to participate in one of the dances that was similar to a Bollywood movie performance and it was hard and super rewarding. Sure, being the worst dancer in the group wasn't super fun and I definitely had to try a lot harder since I wasn’t used to any of the dances most of the girls grew up knowing, but it made me really feel like a part of the group. Finally, dress up if you can. If there is a certain style of dress or way to do your hair or anything that goes with these events, do it. You might feel weird trying to be something you’re not, but really the best way to understand anything is to do it.

And last but not the least, have fun! These events are not supposed to be stressful or they don’t have to change your life. I’m of the mentality that anything that teaches me something new is a good thing. So put on that sari, eat some curry and go explore.