Why Giving Up Is A Good Thing

Why Giving Up Is A Good Thing

And you shouldn't feel bad about it.
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I can remember one of the first lessons my parents ever taught me about life. It was about giving up and how quitters never win. I was in grade school, was enrolled in ballet for a few years, when I decided I didn’t want to be in ballet anymore. I was the tallest girl in my group which seriously could have helped me succeed, but my heart wasn’t in it anymore because I was discouraged. They made me finish out that season because they didn’t believe in giving up. Now as an adult, I completely understand that they had an investment in it, such as all the money they put into lessons and outfits and all the time they had spent watching me learn the proper form of a pirouette, so I wouldn’t let my child ever quit midseason, but I have also learned that sometimes giving up is actually the only good answer.

I have given up many relationships over the years. Whether it was a friend or a family member, when I realized how toxic the relationship was, I gave up on it. My biological mom was a drug addict. That’s seriously one of the only things I knew about her. After waiting up several birthdays and holidays for her to show up only to end up with a broken heart, it didn't take long for the young me to give up on her. It was a really hard thing to do, but it kept me from having my heart broken over and over again. I also gave up being a really good friend with someone because she made it apparent that everything was a contest between us. Her hair was always straighter then mine, her teeth were whiter, she was thinner, she had more friends, etc. I realized that our friendship, at least in her eyes, was based on a competition.

Another thing I have given up on is being the perfect person. I’m not a perfect mom, friend, sister, daughter, neighbor, or wife. I never will be. I tried for years to be that perfect person and it drove me nuts. I make mistakes, big and wide, huge mistakes. I’ve forgotten birthdays, I’ve not showed up to family gatherings and I’ve been known to keep myself locked up in a house for weeks because I simply suck at being an adult. Putting on this perfect show of a person is exhausting. My makeup is almost never done, my hair is almost guaranteed a mess and sometimes my kids skip bath time. I’ve gotten overly attached to fictional characters, cried over news in foreign countries and completely lost a few days when I got obsessed with a book series. Apologizing used to be one of the first things out of my mouth because I knew that my actions had upset others, but I shouldn’t have to apologize for it. If you cannot accept these flaws that make up who I am, then maybe the only true flaw is you.

Lastly, I gave up keeping my kitchen floor clean. That probably sounds terrible, more terrible than it really is, but stay with me. We have this ugly off white linoleum that is permanently stained. It gets completely cleaned, sweeping and mopping, at least once a month. Sometimes it gets cleaned two times in a month if my OCD kicks in, but it’s actually the last thing on my cleaning list. Sue me. In reality, it’s much like my life. No matter how many times I clean up a mess, remnants of human (or puppy) error will always shine through. Sticky spots will always be spot cleaned when needed. And reminders of what was there before will always come back to haunt me. Not keeping my floor completely spotless every second of every day reminds me that not everything is perfect and trying to be is and utterly exhausting.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.

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To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Margliotti

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A Division-By-Division Review Of The MLB In May

Now that it is more than 1/3 of the way into the season, the good teams have separated themselves from the bad ones.

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May was one of the most exciting months of baseball in a long time. For some insight, the MLB set the record for most home runs hit in any one month at 1,135 home runs. Austin Riley, the newest call-up for the Braves, has gone on a historic tear with nine home runs in his first 18 games, good enough for NL Rookie of the Month. Hyun-Jin Ryu, the Dodgers pitcher, is the NL Pitcher of the Month after giving up just three runs total in all of May. So let's take a look at what has happened inside each division in May.

(All statistics and standings referenced come from https://www.mlb.com/)


1. AL

AL East

Unsurprisingly, the Yankees have jumped out to lead the division over the Rays by 2.5 games, despite the Rays being 12 games over .500. I strongly believe the Rays will still make the playoffs, considering they are the leading AL Wild Card team by a good five games. In other news, the Red Sox are above .500 with a record of 31 wins to 29 losses, as I previously predicted. They had quite a slow start and are 7.5 games back, so they will likely have to contest for the other of the two wild card spots this year. The Blue Jays and the Orioles are just having brutally tough years.

AL Central

The Twins are literally the best team in baseball right now in my opinion, with a league-leading .678 winning percentage to back that up, and a lopsided 41 wins to 19 loss record. They are on a historic power tear, being the second team ever to hit 100 homers in their first 50 games. Everyone else in the AL Central is disappointing, with the so-called "easy" divisional champs, the Cleveland Indians, being a whopping 10.5 games back. The White Sox and Tigers are struggling to produce offense and the Royals are just all-around terrible and having a forgettable year.

AL West

The AL West has quickly changed its dynamic and moved back to its expected ways after the month of May. The Astros have surged and taken the lead by 10 games, while the Mariners had a wonderful fall from grace. I truly believed that the Mariners had figured something out and that after April, they truly were a decent team. But after starting 13-2 much to the surprise of many, they went from first to worst in the division and are now sitting at a terrible 26-40, winning just 13 games out of 51 played after their good start. The Rangers, As, and Angels are all mediocre teams, and Houston has set themselves for another division win.

2. NL

NL East

The NL East is shaping up to be one of the more interesting divisional races, with no clear frontrunner. The Phillies are on top right now, but the Braves are just a couple of games back. Last year, the same story was there with the Phillies leading going into the All-Star Break, but the Braves had a fantastic second half and comfortably won the title. However, each team in the NL East still has time to make a surge, with the Nationals and Mets having good starting pitching, and the Marlins starting to heat up, winning six of their last 10 games and even sweeping the Tigers. I would not put it past the NL East to become a four-team race heading into the later parts of the year. I still expect the Braves to win the division if they can find a proper number 4 and number 5 pitcher in their rotation, as the offense is there to back them up. Now that they have signed Dallas Keuchel, the Braves will likely solidify themselves as the division leaders in the next month. Regardless, a wild card spot or two will come from this division.

NL Central

The NL Central, like the NL East, is turning out to be a competitive, interesting division. After, a slow start, the Cubs have returned to lead the NL Central, but only alongside the Brewers and NL MVP candidate Christian Yelich. The Cardinals, Pirates, and Reds are only 3.5, 5.0 and 7.0 games back respectively. I really like the Reds and believe they can heat up and push up to second or third in the division, and maybe even claim a wildcard spot. The Pirates are somehow 28-31 despite a -75 run differential thanks to their abysmal pitching, so I think the Reds can easily surpass them. Also, now that the Cubs have signed elite closer Craig Kimbrel, they can finish off games and win ballgames more comfortably. If the Brewers manage to snatch the division, that wild card spot is always there for the Cubs.

NL West

The Dodgers are playing good baseball (again) and are on a similar track to their AL West counterpart, the Houston Astros, with a division lead of 9 games. Similar to the AL West, the rest of the teams are pretty mediocre with records around .500, with the Giants being the lone wolf and being 10 games under a .500 win percentage. I believe both the Rockies and the Padres have it in them to push for one of the two wild card spots, as the Rockies have been a streaky team this year and the Padres nearing the end of their rebuild. If the Padres were to make a late push, they need the young Tatis Jr., just coming off the Injured List, to stay healthy and boost their offense.

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