All too often I've been guilty of sacrificing myself in ridiculous ways in order to protect others and neglect my own true feelings. One thing I've learned recently is that falling in love with yourself, and putting yourself first, will allow you to make the best of your life and give you the ability to be your best version to those you care about. Here are some important keys to learning to love and cherish yourself:
1. What people say about you is none of your business.
This one is really important and so hard for me. I often worried so much about what people would think, to the extent of personal critical decisions, that I allowed others to dictate my choices because I was just so worried about what they would say or think. In life, people really don't care as much as you think they do-- and I mean that in a good way. I promise you no one is sitting around in a circle talking about all the wrong choices you made or judging you as much as you assume. Even if they are, it's none of your business, because, in the end, your life is going to be determined on YOUR decisions, so it becomes so important, especially as we grow older to put our decisions first.
2. Toxic relationships have to be let go.
For many of us, we have those friendships or groups of friends who we never quite feel good enough for. They make us feel small, they mistreat you, and cause so much self-doubt. Even if you're lonely for a bit, finding true friends and loyal people will be worth it and being patient with yourself is key.
3. Celebrate small victories.
Some of us work out, some of us write, some cook, and take part in so many activities that make us happy. Spend time on these. Find an activity you enjoy that is healthy and learn more about it and set goals. Even the smallest help us to feel worthy and accomplished.
4. Have respect for yourself and your body.
Nurture yourself, make sure that you're healthy and feeling your best. Putting an extra effort to this will also have amazing effects. When you feel good physically, you will feel good emotionally and be more confident to take on the world!
5. Center on yourself.
Put an end to the reliance of happiness on another person or people. Be your own radiance, be happy with who you are and accept your flaws and your past. Acknowledge your mistakes and forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made in the past, because I promise you, every horrible little piece has part in making you the beautiful, wholesome person you are.
You are all so loved and so amazing. You are a gift to the world and the things you've accomplished and taken on are incredible. You have so much ahead of you and so much to give, realize it. Be your own cheerleader, rather than critic. Love yourself, cherish yourself. Everyone deserves to love and appreciate themselves.