The Reasons Chivalry Is Dying

The Reasons Chivalry Is Dying

Why is there an open hole in the ground waiting for chivalry to fall in and be buried alive?

The word chivalry dates back to the Middle Ages. It was a system of values such as loyalty and honor that knights were expected to follow. Today, this word is known as an honorable or polite way to treat women. The idea that chivalry is a dying art is a common topic of conversation. The way men are supposed to treat women in this new age is a topic of conversation in general. Opening a girl’s door or always picking up the check can now be seen as a bad thing. There are new norms, and it can be complicated for men to know the right way to treat a woman. Who is to blame? Is it the men, the women, or society as a whole? Why is there an open hole in the ground waiting for chivalry to fall in and be buried alive?

1. The Feminist Movement

Women want their independence, and they “don’t need no man.” Today, women want equality, and they are making it harder for men to be chivalrous. True feminists will pay their portion of the bill at dinner and roll their eyes if a guy tries to open a car door for them. This whole movement promotes the strength of women and the idea that women can do anything men can. Some women feel that they are being looked at as weak or vulnerable if a man does something chivalrous for her.

2. Hookup Culture

We are living in a very casual society. People can hookup for months and even years but never label themselves as an actual couple. People “date” but have no commitment to one another. Dating is done. Relationships are rarely heard of, and because of this, men aren’t expected to be chivalrous and women aren’t expecting men to be either….

3. Norms Have Been Re-Established

What used to be normal now is abnormal. Many girls find it mind-boggling when a guy pulls out her chair at dinner or makes a phone call just to say hello. Those kinds of small gestures would never be looked at as amazing and extremely gentlemanly years ago. Now, guys who do little things like that, which should be considered the bare minimum, are praised for it. Why? Because 90% of men don’t even do the bare minimum!! Men know that women are different now and will do the littlest possible. There is a lack of effort on the man’s part and an overwhelming acceptance of this on the woman’s part.

4. It's Cool Not To Care

This new-age is all about who can care less and who can show the least amount of feelings. When you hear it out loud, it seems sad, but when you really think about it, you know that it’s true. Maybe men don’t want to be chivalrous because it might show that they have an inkling of real feelings for the girl they are “dating.” In the words of Taylor Swift, “this is looking like a contest, of who can act like they care less.” That’s dating today for you.

"Chivalry is not dead; it's just not required anymore."

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31 Apologies You Wish Your Ex Had Given You

I'm sorry I never licked your butthole.

People fall in and out of love and, as many of us know, love hurts. Love's magical, mystical, and mysterious ways haunt us, and, unfortunately, love can leave unforgivable scars. However, with time pain ends and one can mature from the learned love. Any type of closure, however, is not possible without apologies. So here are 31 "I'm sorries" you need to hear from your ex, whether male or female.

1. I'm sorry I never fully appreciated you.

Some never really appreciate what you have until you no longer have it.

2. I'm sorry I disappeared.

I just thought that maybe it was just a phase.

3. I'm sorry I hung on even when I knew it was over.

I just thought that maybe it was just a phase.

4. I'm sorry I made a fool out of you.

I never meant to, but I guess I played you and you haven't realized until now.

5. I'm sorry I watched **insert show of choice** without you.

You know, some relationships just aren't strong enough.

6. I'm sorry I never respected your family and friends.

Listen to what your friends and family have to say. They are your outside observers.

7. I'm sorry I never stood up for you.

Although you can stand up for yourself, I know I should have been there to support you.

8. I'm sorry I'm not the one for you.

I broke my promises.

9. I'm sorry I ever yelled at you.

Everything happens for a reason.

10. I'm sorry I never trusted you.

I thought you were lying with every word, but it falls on me as I never thought I deserved those words.

11. I'm sorry I never licked your butthole.

I knew you inside and out and, I swear, I loved you, but there was no way I could avoid hurting you

16. I'm sorry I turned my back on you.

I should've known better. I should've stopped before it started.

17. I'm sorry I did what I did.

I should've known better. I should've stopped before it started.

18. I'm sorry you felt alone when we were together.

It was a one-sided relationship.

19. I'm sorry I didn't treat you right.

You deserve better, but I can't be your better.

20. I'm sorry I manipulated you.

Minds have a funny way of being twisted.

21. I'm sorry I never really tried.

You begged and I just turned a blind eye.

22. I'm sorry I got overwhelmed.

It all happened so quickly.

23. I'm sorry I lied.

I thought it would be better to lie, but each lie began to pile up on top of one another.

24. I'm sorry I made a mistake.

I can't deny my past mistakes.

25. I'm sorry I didn't love you as much as you loved me.

You can't help that kind of thing.

26. I'm sorry I was scared to let you go.

But I can't keep holding on.

27. I'm sorry I can't turn back time.

I wouldn't change it all.

28. I'm sorry I was indecisive.

Who am I to say what's right or wrong?

29. I'm sorry I blamed it all on you.

It's both of our faults since it takes two to tango.

30. I'm sorry I was an idiot.

People do stupid things. It's a positive occurrence when one realizes that he/she did something stupid.

31. I'm sorry it took me this long to say, "I'm sorry".

Better late than never.

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5 Reasons Why Online Dating Is Taking Over The Dating World

"Swiping for your true love?"

I do not even know what it is like to actually meet a decent guy in person anymore. Why is this? Dating apps have been taking over the dating world. According to About U.S. News & World Report, "a multi-platform publisher of news and information," presented a survey in October 2017 stating that about 70% of single men and women use dating apps during work!

I am sure that meeting someone that is not online is obviously possible, but why is it that dating apps have become the new world of dating? Here are 5 reasons why:

1. They are convenient

You can easily set up a date with someone on the apps when you are at work, walking through the city, babysitting; the list is endless. Instead of going out to actually meet people, you can literally sit in your bed and swipe for a date.

2. They are used for boredom

Many people do truthfully go on the app due to boredom, meaning they just want someone to talk to. However, sometimes these interactions can lead to a relationship-- you never know.

3. They are easy to use.

I personally do not think dating apps are that difficult to use. They usually tell you what you should include in your profile. It is easy to view people who may catch your interest and the apps usually match you with who you like.

4. They are great for people who are shy.

Some people really do not like going out in public to meet people. This is why they turn to dating apps as they feel more comfortable connecting with others on the apps first.

5. It can be a confidence booster for people.

From personal experience, I did not know how "admirable" I was until over 100 guys were messaging me on OKCupid for my attention. Not that I am anything that spectacular, but the fact that a guy wanted to talk to me, even if it was for something like a hook up (Ew), it gave me self confidence. Obviously you need to be attracted to the person and their personality, but the point is, getting many "likes" and messages on the dating apps can lift up your confidence.

Personally, I am on and off the apps. But hey, they work for some people.

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