Why Are We College Kids So Homesick?

Why Are We College Kids So Homesick?

Keep calm and call home.
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Congrats on making it through the first week of classes! I know we just got back to school, but it is inevitable you will feel homesick.

And, being homesick is the worst because at least for out-of-state students, you cannot just hop on a plane and peace out for the weekend. I mean, you could, but realistically, that just is not an efficient use of our time. And for in-state students, going home could mean an eight hour drive!

I am writing this article because I want to know why I feel homesick and how I can stop feeling homesick, at least for a few days.

"Maybe you had to leave in order to really miss a place; maybe you had to travel to figure out how beloved your starting point was."

First of all, being homesick can be different for each person. There is no one set indicator of being homesick except that you miss your family, friends, pets, house, etc. It is important to remember this fact because you may think your friends are weird for not being homesick or for handling it differently, but they might think you are weird for the way you deal with it. Just respect your friends and try to help them feel better if they are missing home!

Personally, I know I can call my mom and she will talk to me for as long as I need, and somehow always make me feel so much better. Some of my friends have told me they cry it out, and that is totally acceptable. Sometimes you just need a good cry, OK? Other people use FaceTime or Skype, and sometimes families will even come visit for a long weekend!

Though these are great ways to feel better, my question is why do I feel homesick so much?

Whenever I am busy, I need to call home or I will be even more stressed out. Spring semester is particularly busy for everyone, and my planner has already started to fill up with academic due dates, meetings, sorority events and other activities. I like to think that if I am super occupied, I will not think about home as much and therefore be less homesick. But, this idea often backfires.

I find myself with less and less “me” time spent relaxing my mind, and spending at least 10 minutes laying in bed before I fall asleep listing off all the things I have to do for the next day. Sometimes my mind will not shut up, and I do not get any sleep.

However, I know that in my little mess of a world, a call home will always take away some of the homesickness. Even getting a text from my mom about how the Chiefs are playing, or about how cold it is in Kansas right now makes me feel a sense of happiness. What do I mean by sense of happiness? Well, I think I mean that each time I receive an update, story, text, care package or email from home, I feel as if a little bit of home is being sent to me. And, that my friends, is how you overcome homesickness.

Even though college is a time for yourself, to learn and to grow, being away from home and your family can be hard. I am here to tell you that it is okay. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you are weak or annoying for being homesick because you are definitely stronger than you think. Although being homesick can be the worst, you eventually find your coping mechanism whether it is a call, text, or email home, or a good cry, you will feel better.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.
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We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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There Is No 'Right Way' To React To A Shooting

Everyone is different.

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After the shootings this year in New Zealand, Brazil, and close to home for some of us Aurora, people have been reacting in different ways. With some offering their thoughts and prayers, donating money to help pay for the funerals of the victims, fighting for action in regards to ending gun violence, candlelight vigils basically anything that can help them in this time of grief.

There is no right or wrong way to react to a shooting — everyone grieves in their own ways. We should not judge one another for how we grieve in a tragedy.

People have been saying that thoughts and prayers won't do anything. However, maybe it can be a comfort to some people—a way to let people know that they are thinking of them and that they care.

Sometimes people may want to donate money or blood to help out any survivors who may have suffered from blood loss or create GoFundMe accounts to either help out with medical expenses or to pay for the funerals of the victims or even start charities like Islamic Relief USA. Donating your time and money is a good way to help out because you are making a difference that is a form of action you are taking.

There is also grieving in the form of vigils. One example of a vigil is this guy who makes crosses every time there is some kind of tragedy. Vigils are often a good way to remember the victims, to pray for the healing of the survivors, to talk about what they were like as people.

Some people even want to take action by demanding that the laws change a good example of this would be March for Our Lives, which happened after the Parkland shooting last year. This march was fighting for gun control or should I say changes in the gun laws America currently has.

Some people also do acts of solidarity, for example, wearing a hijab like the prime minister of New Zealand did when she went to go visit the Christchurch shooting survivors. My community college had something a couple of years ago called Hijab Day to help show solidarity with our friends. I participated, and it was quite an experience—no one should ever be afraid to be who they are.

There is never a right or wrong way to react, and no one should ever criticize one another for how they react. It's not a test where there is a right or wrong answer—everyone is different and that is okay.

No one should ever have to be afraid to go to school, go to work, or go to their place of worship or wherever they decide to go. Whatever we decide to do to make a change, as long as we are taking some kind of action, is good enough for me.

Nothing ever gets done by sitting around and doing nothing, so whatever it is you do, get out there and do it. As long as you are showing support it doesn't matter how you show it.

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