Why Are We College Kids So Homesick?

Why Are We College Kids So Homesick?

Keep calm and call home.

Congrats on making it through the first week of classes! I know we just got back to school, but it is inevitable you will feel homesick.

And, being homesick is the worst because at least for out-of-state students, you cannot just hop on a plane and peace out for the weekend. I mean, you could, but realistically, that just is not an efficient use of our time. And for in-state students, going home could mean an eight hour drive!

I am writing this article because I want to know why I feel homesick and how I can stop feeling homesick, at least for a few days.

"Maybe you had to leave in order to really miss a place; maybe you had to travel to figure out how beloved your starting point was."

First of all, being homesick can be different for each person. There is no one set indicator of being homesick except that you miss your family, friends, pets, house, etc. It is important to remember this fact because you may think your friends are weird for not being homesick or for handling it differently, but they might think you are weird for the way you deal with it. Just respect your friends and try to help them feel better if they are missing home!

Personally, I know I can call my mom and she will talk to me for as long as I need, and somehow always make me feel so much better. Some of my friends have told me they cry it out, and that is totally acceptable. Sometimes you just need a good cry, OK? Other people use FaceTime or Skype, and sometimes families will even come visit for a long weekend!

Though these are great ways to feel better, my question is why do I feel homesick so much?

Whenever I am busy, I need to call home or I will be even more stressed out. Spring semester is particularly busy for everyone, and my planner has already started to fill up with academic due dates, meetings, sorority events and other activities. I like to think that if I am super occupied, I will not think about home as much and therefore be less homesick. But, this idea often backfires.

I find myself with less and less “me” time spent relaxing my mind, and spending at least 10 minutes laying in bed before I fall asleep listing off all the things I have to do for the next day. Sometimes my mind will not shut up, and I do not get any sleep.

However, I know that in my little mess of a world, a call home will always take away some of the homesickness. Even getting a text from my mom about how the Chiefs are playing, or about how cold it is in Kansas right now makes me feel a sense of happiness. What do I mean by sense of happiness? Well, I think I mean that each time I receive an update, story, text, care package or email from home, I feel as if a little bit of home is being sent to me. And, that my friends, is how you overcome homesickness.

Even though college is a time for yourself, to learn and to grow, being away from home and your family can be hard. I am here to tell you that it is okay. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you are weak or annoying for being homesick because you are definitely stronger than you think. Although being homesick can be the worst, you eventually find your coping mechanism whether it is a call, text, or email home, or a good cry, you will feel better.

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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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