"Oh, girl, it's not your fault that he's cheating on you."

"Oh, babe, he's the one who did all this crap, so you should not blame yourself for it."

"You're never once at fault."

Do all of these sound familiar? Every woman has surely had a friend tell her these words of comfort and support, all in an attempt to ease the feelings of a broken heart.

And after time, you'll be reflecting about the break-up and random questions will just pop up: Are you completely guilt-free? Is he the one who should be taking all the blame? If I do this, will he come back to me?

All of these intense emotions just continue to mess with your senses and send you into all kinds of madness. You're trying your hardest to come to terms with what exactly went wrong with the entire relationship. With all these things going on in your head, you may feel shaken and unprepared for any potential partner.

You know that you are more than ready to give love and be loved again.

However, the very thought of your previous relationship destroys you internally. What if you're unable to love someone again? What if you may not find someone like him again?

My dear, hold your horses. Because you need a reality check.

Trying to avoid past events doesn't erase those landmarks. They will still live inside of you. So instead, you must learn to overcome your inner demons before jumping into a new relationship.

Also, be fair to your next partner. He has no obligations to mend your broken self, even if he has feelings for you. Never push all that responsibility onto him because you'll be putting him through emotional torture.

Don't scar him the same way your ex scarred you.

The same person can never be replicated, and there is no such thing as a carbon copy of this person. When you are expecting your potential partner to have the same mannerisms as your ex, just forget it and set him free.

You need to acknowledge that all is lost in regards to that past relationship.

Instead of living in the delusion that the blame is completely on your ex, start reflecting on yourself as well.

You're at fault too. Let's just get that out there. You screwed up badly and destroyed yourself in the process. This is the harshest of truths, but acceptance is key in order for you to move on fully.

Life doesn't pause and wait for you to rectify all of your mistakes. Whether you like it or not, it just goes on.

Before you start your sob stories about the whole relationship, and how he was the cheating asshole, let me just make this clear: Cheating should never be tolerated in a relationship, as that is utter disrespect to your partner and the ultimate betrayal.

Trust is the most precarious thing in the world. When it's broken, it will be an uphill battle trying to rebuild it again with the same person who ruined everything. Trying is usually just a waste of time because if he is truly committed, he would never stray and succumb to temptations.

What people need to be accountable for is not walking away earlier when there are obvious red flags.

Don't tell me stuff like, "How would I know?" because that is just so fake. You knew all along, but you chose to ignore everything and live happily in your own delusion.

So, don't blame him for screwing you up. You brought it upon yourself.

If he doesn't prioritize your relationship, or if he is rude to you in the most unjustifiable way, don't blame him. Why are you blaming him? You decided to take him back in a heartbeat.

You decided to be nice and understanding toward him, despite his shitty attitude. You only have yourself to blame for giving him the time of day.

I don't understand why women would just put the blame on their partners when they are the culprits of their own miseries. Before deciding to be forgiving the next time around, remember that you are not obliged to do so. Go ahead to tell him to get lost.

Women don't have to behave nicely or put themselves in a lowly position when they are subjected to mistreatment in a relationship. This is, after all, the 21st century. Women should learn to cherish themselves more.