Be Who You Wanna Be

Be Who You Wanna Be

Today society tells us who we should be, but dare to be different and become the person you want to become.

Who would you be if nothing would hold you back? Would you be that doctor or teacher? Would you be the person that always makes people laugh or would you be a writer and share your stories. Who would you be?

Today we live in a world where we let society define us. We post our whole lives to social media for others to see. We strive to “one up” each other. We see what that one kid we talked to in English class once did and we strive to do something better. We let this define us. We no longer live by what we wanna be, but we live by what others think of us. I challenge you, take yourself off of social media for a week (or even a day) and your views will change. You will begin to enjoy life more, you won't be consumed by what others are doing, you will be consumed in doing what you want to do. You won't have anything to compare your life too. You begin to take a step into becoming who you wanna be.

Before we leave the house in the morning we have to make ourselves “ look good”, by the definition of others. We don't wear that crazy bird shirt we love so much because we don't want people to make fun of us or because we care what other people think of us (why....). We put on our faces full of makeup because we think we're not good enough without it. But deep inside, we really wanna wear that bird shirt and we don't wanna get up 30 minutes early just to put on our makeup (who wants to get up early?). We define what we wear by what everyone else wears, we don't style our make up our own way. We do our make up to whatever is popular. We live our lives by what we think other people need to see to accept us. I challenge you, wear that crazy bird shirt! Do your make up a different way. New trends are set because someone else stepped outside their comfort zone and took a chance. Don't blend in with the crowd, dare to stand out. When you begin to step outside your comfort zone the world grows. You take another step to becoming who you really want to be.

We also let others define our actions. When we go to the prom we don’t dance our favorite style, instead, we stand and swing our hips back and forth because that's what everyone else is doing. We don't line dance to our favorite songs because no one else is doing it. Be that person that breaks the “norms”, maybe someone else in the crowd wants to line dance and they just need you to be the brave soul to take a step. Be who you are, don’t let others define what you become. Take that crazy prom picture with your best friend! The crazy pictures are the ones that you end up liking the best. Branch out and do what you want to do. Don’t take boring pictures because everyone else does, don't get a small car because that’s what everyone else has. Get that big jacked up truck you want, who cares it’s not a “girl car”. Be who you wanna be! Do what you wanna do! You won’t be happy following the crowd, in the end. In the end, you will smile because you did what you wanted to do, and you became who you wanted to become!

Growing up I never wanted to fit the “norm”. I did my own thing and I wasn’t “popular”. Popularity is something that ends at high school graduation and honestly what does it really mean. I was always the person that did what she wanted to do. I wanted to dye my hair red, so I did. Once I dyed my hair red others began to follow. I didn’t want a “girly car”, so I got a blazer and jacked it up. I grew up in a “city” school with lots of people that haven’t touched a farm animal. I didn’t let that hold me back from wearing what I wanted to wear. I didn’t follow the “norm” of wearing yoga pants every day, I became who I wanted to become by wearing my boots and jeans. My boots occasionally smelled like swine, but I didn’t care that’s who I was. I took all those crazy pictures with my friends. I did all the crazy things to make my friends laugh, these are the memories we cherish most. I didn’t let others define what I did if it wasn’t “normal” who cares. “Normal” is not what I wanted to be. Growing up I did a lot of different things that weren’t “norm”. In the end, I couldn’t be more proud of the person I have become. When I look back, I remember all the times I broke the “norm”, all the times I was who I wanted to become!

In the end, we don't remember the person that matched everyone else, we remember the person that stands out. Think about a crowd, everyone is wearing black and one person is wear red, who do you remember? I bet you remember the one person wearing red. Let's think back in history. Do we remember the people that followed the fashion trends and just simply “fit in?" No way! We remember the people that stuck out and become who they wanted to be. We remember Rosa Parks for not giving up her seat, we remember Martin Luther King for embracing who he was and sharing his ideas. This helped so many people. Sometimes becoming who you want to be will benefit more than just yourself.

Think to yourself, who do you really want to be? Do you want to be defined by what everyone else is doing? Or do you want to step outside your comfort zone? Every Time you step outside your comfort zone, your comfort zone grows. You being to learn more. You become a better person. When you move outside your comfort zone you inspire someone else to do the same. Become the person you really want to be, who care what everyone else thinks. No one has to live your life but yourself! People come in and out of your life, but the only person that stays is yourself!

So tomorrow, wear whatever you want. Take a chance. Join the band if you want, join the football team. Take a step in the direction of who you want to be! This will make yourself a happier person, don't pretend to be someone you're not anymore.Challenge yourself!!

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

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I Blame My Dad For My High Expectations

Dad, it's all your fault.

I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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Minimalism Addresses Our Culture Of Consumption

Decluttering your life and consuming less allows you to live in the moment.


Most of us, at some point in our lives, have become trapped by our culture of consumption. It's a disgusting display of wealth and social status that social divides us. This social divide does a great job at inhibiting our potential at building objective, meaningful relationships. Material possessions become our identity and we begin to lose a true sense of who we really are. It's entirely possible for us to exist as content, beautiful human beings without participating in the culture of consumption we have been duped into believing in.

The problem with our culture of consumption is that it has become a key aspect of every activity. We give too much value to "things," focusing less on their contribution to our overall wellbeing, passions, or happiness. We may experience temporary contentment or pleasure, but it seldom lasts forever. Minimalism eliminates the "things" from our routine, allowing us to find contentment from the simple things in life.

Minimalism is not an expensive hobby one takes up on the quest for self-discovering and happiness. There is this huge misconception that being a minimalist requires a fat wallet and that your life is now restricted by rules and limitations. This simply is not true. This misconception comes from the elitist culture which has emerged through social media outlets. This distorted perception has blurred the individualistic nature of minimalism. A lifestyle often associated as a fad is actually a lifestyle that de-clutters your physical and mental state.

Minimalists are people who…

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  • Focus on personal growth and the quality of their relationships.
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  • Consume less and intentionally.
  • Gift experiences rather than material possessions.

There isn't anything necessarily wrong with owning material possessions. If you find importance in an object that genuinely makes you happy then, great! Minimalism doesn't have to look like white walls behind aesthetically placed black furniture. This concept focuses on the internal value system we all forget we control. Start small; declutter your thoughts. We easily get stuck in our routines that we forget to look slow down and just breathe. Living in the moment is by far the most valuable aspect of minimalism because it allows us to feel and experience every minute of our existence.

If you're someone who enjoys nature, there's more value to be found in the adventures we seek out and create than those created for us. Discover birds you've never seen before, wander down trials in your neighborhood, or uncover beaches no one else knows about. You'll find more value in the creation of your own adventure because those experiences are completely your own.

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