Love isn’t backhanded, sly comments when you aren’t there to defend yourself.

It isn't love if he only calls you when he needs something.

It isn’t love when he calls you out and makes you look foolish in front of all of your friends.

It isn't love when he checks out other girls when he thinks you aren’t paying attention.

He doesn’t love you.

You don’t cross his mind when he’s considering all of the parties he could hit up this weekend or when he talks to a handful of girls, just hoping you won’t find out about them.

But not to worry. When he finally does get caught and you do call him out, a couple of “baby I’m so sorry, please forgive me” texts sent your way will fix all of his problems and things will quickly be back to “normal.”

He doesn’t make sure you get in the house safely before driving off or open the door for you like a true gentleman should. He won’t check on you when he knows you’re not okay or try his best to simply put a smile on your face. This boy you “love” so much, does not care enough to put in the effort. But he will lead you on and tell you what you want to hear as long as it keeps you around and willing to do whatever he asks.

He does not care for you, he cares for himself.

When “it was just once, I swear it won’t happen again” turns into two, three, four times. When you spend countless nights thinking “What did I do wrong?” or making lists in your head of what you could have done to make him happier, what you could have done to make him stay.

The answer is nothing.

Nothing can stop that boy that you care so deeply for, from lusting over some other girl. Once it’s in his mind, you won’t be.

But when he realizes that he messed up, that he got caught, he will beg and plead for your forgiveness. He will act so sorry, maybe even cry for you to forgive him.

Don’t. He doesn’t love you.

He loves the idea of you and what you’re willing to do for him. It’s all about what he gets out of it, not about you.

He doesn’t really love you when he has to spend most of his time making up for the fact that he wasn’t loving you right in the first place.

You deserve better.

You deserve someone who wakes up thinking of you and falls asleep doing the same thing. Someone who compliments you and who you are, someone who pushes you to be better. Who is in it for the long run, no matter what challenges or conflicts you may face. Someone who loves all of you, no if's, and's, or but's about it.

To the girl who has ever been put in any of these situations or felt this way before- I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you deserve better.