When you go through a tremendous and heartbreaking loss, a lot of things happen. A series of unfortunate events start to unfold.

Of course, you're hurt. You are hurt for a while, and the pain never lessens. You cry or you get angry. You stare up at the sky, searching for the next step in the positive direction. The negative always wants to lure you to it, but you must not give in.

You are lost for a bit, too. Everything around you doesn't make sense like it always had your whole life. Your focus is cut off by this loss; how could you focus on anything else when one of the most important people in your life just left?

You try to enjoy your usual daily activities and pretend your hardest that everything is okay. Don't lie to yourself; this is not okay, and it won't be okay for a long time.

Your heart heals slowly, and it seems like forever that this pain will linger. This pain isn't like the excruciating feeling in your stomach when you've eaten too much, or the sometimes random stabbing in your sides or in your chest. This pain is very much different from the rest of them.

This pain is just absolutely unreal. That is the best word to describe it. Of course, all pain hurts, and pain just doesn't feel good, no matter how hard you try. This pain, felt from a significant loss in your life, is unreal.

While pain focuses to jab at a specific location in your body, this kind of pain, otherwise known as heartbreak, is spread all over. The central target is the heart. You feel it most there.

After a while, this pain actually subsides. Time can heal almost anything, they say. This is true. Don't get me wrong, you may still feel this pain every now and then, but overall it goes away and minds its own business.

It's only when you think about this person that the pain decides to come back.

A lot of other things happen, too, when you're going through this tough time. You learn who is real and who is fake. Yes, I said it, and you can deny me all you want, but it's true. Just wait and see. This is a big one.

It is so heartbreaking to say that, but it shows, and the pain can come back for this as well. You learn who is really there for you, and who is not. You also learn about who cares for that person, even after they die, but you also see the ones who never cared, start to slip away.

You get all this attention from people. You get dinners made for you. You get gifts. You get sweet and sincere text messages from people you barely know. All of a sudden, everyone cares all at one moment. It is overwhelming and confusing, but it felt a little good to know that all of these family members, friends, and strangers actually cared.

No. As time goes on, it starts to really show who is there for you and who is simply there for their own benediction. It feels good to them to be a good person at that time.

During this time, you also lose a lot of people. Sometimes this can be hard to understand. It isn't your fault. They are just selfish and cruel, and I guess their time is more important than you and your family. They think about themselves more than they think about other people, not just you.

If they were really "family forever" and your "best friend forever", then they would still be here.

You will also find that life gets a little easier, and you develop a new normal. This means that you adjust to the loss and you are in the acceptance stage. Others may linger and hang out in the denial stage or the grieving process; I guess that's okay. But, like it is supposed to, life goes on.

Time does not stop, even though it feels like the right thing for it to do. It continues, even though you may feel like you're frozen.

Stuck. Broken. Hurt.

I tell you all of this from experience. If I hadn't gone through a terrible loss, I wouldn't know how to write this. It wouldn't be my place or time to tell.

I lost my mother when I was 17. I have felt this pain. I still feel it sometimes. I still think about her. When the loss was fresh, it was the worst. Time does heal.

I have realized that some people were really there for us and some people really weren't. I have lost my mother, but ever since her passing, I have lost more people than I ever thought. It shows what type of people they are, and you all know who you are.

Some of these people are absolutely oblivious about this because they focus on themselves and themselves only. They will find out one day.

I have grown into a new normal. I have a new life. Even though my mom is not here, I still think about her and include her in every waking moment. I sometimes talk to her when I'm not happy.

I miss her and love her so much. I hope she knows this.

When you go through a significant loss, a lot happens so fast in so little time. It's actually scary. But you learn a lot from this, and you make yourself a better person because of it. Like my mom used to say, "everything happens for a reason".

I hope you find your reason.