When He Tries To Come Back, Don't Make It Easy

When He Tries To Come Back, Don't Make It Easy

Never put any toxic relationship above your happiness.

We have all been in the same place at one point. It's extremely frustrating to work so hard for a relationship to work and get nothing but hurt in return. Especially when the person that you worked so hard for is everything that you ever wanted. Whether he wasn't ready for a commitment, put another girl ahead of you or just didn't know what he wanted, there's a good chance that he will see you doing well and trying to move on without him and try to come back into your life for a second chance (or a third chance, or a fourth chance). While I'm a firm believer in things coming back if they are really meant to be in your life, I have to say that giving him more than a few chances is just going to end up hurting you more.

He hurt you. He walked all over your heart and left you with nothing but questions and regrets. If this is his fourth or fifth time coming back around, let him miss you. Don't put your mind in a bad place and mess up everything you have worked so hard for. The guy who is going to treat you correctly forever is out there waiting. Don't waste time on a jerk who likes to play with you, no matter how much you like him. Deep down, he probably does truthfully care about you, but he also most likely doesn't view your feelings as important because if you continue to go back to him, he will think that you don't care about yourself either. Show him you have some self esteem, stop looking so desperate. Live your life as a free woman and let him make it up to you. If he's a good guy deep down who's just made a few too many mistakes and is worthy of your time and love, he will try to make things right until you tell him to stop.

There is nothing worse than a broken heart over someone you really and truly cared about and wanted. Stop letting yourself get to that point. Take some time for yourself and maybe even go out with someone new for a change. This guy may not make your heart race or give you goosebumps, but try to get your mind off of the jerk who treats you poorly. Show him that you can go out with others and not think about him, even if he's on your mind all the time, he doesn't need to know that. Let him chase you for a change, show him how it feels to be the one wishing for the other.

You are strong, you are beautiful. If he does not realize your worth, do not go back. Do not go back to the lonely late nights, worried about who he's talking to and what he's doing. Do not go back to putting him above anyone else in your life when you know for sure that he would not do the same for you. It's okay to be single, as long as you are healthy and happy. If he drives you to a dark place, cut him out.

Once he realizes what he has lost again, the cycle will repeat. You'll get a call or text from him in the middle of the night and your heart will race, just as it used to do before things went wrong. Back when you thought he was the guy for you and before he had a chance to prove otherwise. But you'll remember, eventually, that he's not good enough for you. You may not be strong enough to let him go completely just yet, and that's understandable, but please do not just let him back in without an actual attempt to fix things. One day, you'll finally have moved on, and that day will be here before you know it. Put your happiness and mental health above everything, and don't let him destroy it. We all know that if he gets the chance again, he will.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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If She Can't Tell You How She Feel Then It's Her Fault If She Is Upset

We aren't mind readers, its not our fault if you get upset for me not knowing how you feel.


Be vocal.

Feeling hurt? Feel betrayed? Or, that someone is pushing you around? Step up and say something. If you remain silence for months on end and then one day explode, then sorry.

That is on you, not me.

Having a relationship is all about communication. That means you discuss your feelings. You listen and exchange conversation. If you are unable to communicate about how you feel, it's not the other person's fault. You had months to explain how you felt. Instead, you sat there in silence. You can't expect someone to hold your hand and walk you through your problems. If you are feeling hurt, you need to step up and say something. It's not their fault you kept your feelings silenced. A relationship without communication is destined to die. And if you can't express how you feel to them you have already nailed the confine closed.

A relationship goes two ways. It's about building and growing together.

If someone is unable to properly communicate their feelings, then how is that relationship going to grow. People need to step up and say how they feel.

Got something to say? Say it.

Staying in the silence isn't going to help anyone. It's not going to help your hurt feelings or fix the situation. Chances are, the other person in the relationship doesn't even know what is going on. Say something. Speak up. Want to change the situation? Make the first step. A relationship is about growing together. If you can't give the person the chance to grow through a mistake then the relationship was never a true one. You can't expect someone to be perfect all the time. You need to understand that people make mistakes and if you are truly invested in the relationship, you would stand up and say something.

People are not mind readers. It doesn't matter who started it.

They said something that hurt you? Say something about it. The situation won't change. So, don't expect to sit around and watch the situation change. You could what changes a bad situation for others. But if you stand there acting all innocent or quite, guess what. You are the one in the end to blame. Not them. They did nothing wrong at the end, because you nailed that confine shut when you decided not to speak up. Don't proceed to attack them about it. Be open. Be honest.

Staying quiet isn't going to change the situation.

So don't yell and cry when things don't work out.

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