So, it's over. You've poured your heart and emotions out to someone. Maybe you had spent the past few weeks, months, or years with this person. It doesn't matter if you were in a situationship or a full-fledged relationship because you still found a connection. You found someone who you eagerly awaited to see because once you left their presence, you already missed them.

You found someone who made you anxious every time you saw them because your heart never quite left the honeymoon stage. You found someone who you felt comfortable enough to open up to; you allowed them to become your best friend, the one who knew all of your idiosyncrasies, like the fact that your deal breaker question is "Coke or Pepsi?"

Over time they became a part of your daily life to the point where it became odd to not interact with them for a few days. But, then something happens. Whether there is a discrepancy in what each person wants or someone just loses the spark and finds someone else, things aren't the same anymore.

Often times you can feel the difference just in conversation and when you see them if you even still get the chance to see them without someone making an excuse to bail. Despite your intuition, part of you still hopes that everything is okay. You convince yourself that you're just overthinking it because forever means forever right?

Shortly after, you realize your gut wasn't too far off because here comes a text or call that through coded language asks to stay friends. There was so much build up to let you down easily. You sit there trying to wrap your mind around what is going on. How could this happen? When did they find the time to lose feelings for you, when you were still sitting there falling for them? You don't have the time to even ponder these questions, so you quickly blurt out, "Yes, we can stay friends."

Everyone has seen the Tumblr posts or the Twitter threads or even the advice their own friends give that insist you need to let the person go completely. I mean, "Milk and Honey" even told you that someone can't leave and have you too. Because how can you be just friends with someone, someone who you fell for?

They are being selfish when they ask you to stay in their life. They want to have their cake and eat it too, but you oblige. You know how much it will hurt you. You wince at the fact that they saw all of you, and they still didn't choose you. But part of you knows deep down, if you gave them the ultimatum, if you told them they either had to have all of you or have none of you, they would let you go. And, you aren't ready for that. I don't think anyone is ever ready for that, but for your own sake, let go. When they ask to stay friends, I need you to realize that's not the bookmark for your relationship. That's the end.