When You Don't Even Know A Person You Used To Love

When You Don't Even Know A Person You Used To Love

Change really is unavoidable with time...

It’s a really weird feeling and one that is hard to put words to. You used to know this person even better than yourself. They were the person you wanted to share all your stories with, the person you wanted to talk to constantly, and the person you couldn’t imagine your life without. Talking to them everyday wasn’t even a question, it was a habit. Fighting was normal and was almost always resolved within the day, you had a good deal of their clothes in your closet, and their happiness was your happiness.

Time and distance force themselves upon us as we grow up and go out into the real world. Sometimes that person that used to be your everything turns into a nobody, and the saddest part is it happens in the blink of an eye. One day your with them laughing and playing, telling them every detail of your day, and, next thing you know, two years have gone by. You don’t know if they’re in a relationship, if they have a job, how their family is, or what they do for fun now. It’s quite surprising how much you can miss in a person’s life in only a matter of a year.

Curiosity will take over every once in a while and you’ll send a few texts to re-cap, or have a phone call about the most recent news in their life, but after that you just go on about your day as if everything were normal; which it is. Normalcy to you now entails them not being a daily part in your life. It’s something you never ever could have saw coming or thought would happen, but it does. It’s really scary because, looking back, you realize all the time that goes by and how little you know about them and then remember that they know just as little about you. Someone that used to be attached to your hip has turned into a phone call every five months. You become nostalgic at first, remembering all those nights you stayed up until 4a.m. talking, and that time you brought them to an awkward family gathering you didn’t want to have to face alone. Next, sadness sinks in. You feel guilty for not keeping in touch. It upsets you that you actually have no idea if they are happy or not when you used to know their happiness by the hour. Their life has changed, but so has yours.

Something I think we all overlook is the pure idea that, sometimes in life, you have to make sacrifices. You will not be able to stay in touch with every single person on your high school lacrosse team, you will not speak to your, once thought to be, love of your life, and you may even find it hard to stay in contact with an old best friend. Everyone is doing different things and are in completely different areas of their lives, and that’s okay. We all grow up, we all get lost, and we find ourselves again…sometimes even better than the person we were before. Enjoy the time you have now with the people that mean the most to you. Make the relationships mean something while they’re still alive. Remember that just because you may not love the person you used to right now, doesn’t mean you never did and just because you might have drifted, doesn’t mean you can’t mend.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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