What's It's Like Being Grown(ish)

What's It's Like Being Grown(ish)

We’re stuck in this awkward gray area, but somehow it works.

As college students, we’re in this weird stage of our lives where we don’t quite fit into any set demographic. Sure, we do our own laundry and possibly even make our own meals, but ask us how to pay taxes or what a 401K is? Forget it. We’re what I like to call grown(ish).

Being grown(ish) means eating pizza at 3 a.m. because you can and then going to an interview for some uppity engineering firm at 9 a.m. the next morning. It means being able to get into R-rated movies but still choosing Pixar instead. Having to file your taxes in April but only having thirteen cents in your bank account.

See, we’re at the age where we’re too old to enjoy something like prom, but the thought of a real job terrifies us. We’re stuck in this awkward gray area, but somehow it works.

And here’s why it’s so awesome.

1. This is the one time I can go anywhere without any responsibility

I’m old enough where I can travel alone to another country for a month and a half and have it be completely okay. Sure, I may be (very) broke but I can travel and not have to worry about a job to return to or family obligations.

2. Literally, everyone is broke

It’s a weird communal bonding of having only enough in your bank account for a Cookout tray and maybe a milkshake if we’re feeling crazy. You don’t feel pressured to spend money places because everyone is in the same boat. (Except for that one kid who still uses Daddy’s credit card…)

3. We have this desensitization to subpar things

Whether food, drinks, or living situations, we are exposed to the worst of it until it slowly becomes our normality. Thus, we can rough it ANYWHERE. A hostel? That’s nice compared to our dorm rooms. Street food? That’s a luxury—dining halls have given us so much worse.

4. Comfy clothes are everyday clothes

Crocs and pajamas? Now, that’s fashion and I’m HERE for it. Why look nice when you can double your sleeping clothes as your everyday clothes? That’s what I call being fiscally responsible.

5. We’re old enough to own our place but still can’t take care of ourselves

Now, this one is maybe (not so) awesome but it’s extremely funny as an outside observer. We’re still under the mindset that orange juice cures anything. Flu? Orange juice will fix that. A cough? Orange juice. Gestational diabetes? Orange juice. We haven’t quite understood yet that there are other necessary remedies to illness, but maybe we’ll eventually learn.

It’s an incredibly weird time but hey, I’ll take weird.

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Figard

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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