Holding All Your Relationships To The Same Standards Is Key To Having The Right People In Your Life

Holding All Your Relationships To The Same Standards Is Key To Having The Right People In Your Life

What type of people are you attracting?

According to Dictionary.com, the definition of a relationship is "an emotional or other connection between people." That being said, you can have a relationship with anyone. These key points can apply to ANYONE and EVERYONE in your life.

1. Strong character

The people you associate yourself with have to associate with themselves. How can you look into having a strong friendship when they don't even know who you are. This also relates vice versa. You can't know who someone else truly is when you can't return the favor.

2. Humor

Honestly, any type of humor is good enough. You don't have to like the same jokes, but a person without humor is just a boring person. Whether they have a hilariously sarcastic personality, self-deprecating, extremely exaggerated, or a risky sense of humor, they will be able to fit in anywhere. Humor you're not a fan of is better than a person with no personality.

4. Kindness

How can you trust someone to treat you right if they don't treat other people right. This is a tricky one that you have to keep an eye out with everyone. Your friends may treat you kindly and with the most respect, but if they're rude to a server or their mother, they don't have a kind heart for anyone.

5. Unconditional love

Not just an unconditional love for you. But an unconditional love for planet earth, cute animals they see in someones car, their favorite food and their favorite people. An unconditional love for everything means an unconditional love for you.

6. Thirst for life

Going along with the unconditional love. If they don't have a thirst for life, they can't have a thirst for you. They need to have a thirst to grow and thrive in everything they do.

7. Commitment

Commitment to literally anything. If they have the ability to be committed to finishing a crafty project, they have to ability to commit to you in any aspect. If they can't commit to simple tasks, how are they going to commit to a human being?

8. Compatibility

If you can't relate to them, you won't be able to go about your daily lives with them. Say you're holding your significant other to this standard. Can you imagine spending the rest of your lives together when you're not compatible?

9. Manage priorities

Unfortunately, you will not always be #1 in these peoples lives, but they should know when that is. There will come a time when they will need to cancel on your plans, or not even make them because there are bigger things going on in their life. If they're willing to keep pushing back these priorities, who's to say they're not willing to push you back.

10. Support system

Everyone needs a strong support system and everyone should be part of a strong support system. Enough said.

11. Strong work ethic

You don't want someone in your life who continues to procrastinate everything that is given to them. Have people in your life that motivate you to work hard in life. It's easier to stay accountable when you have people that immediately begin a new task when it's given to them.

12. Bright future

You know what you're worth. Don't settle for friends and significant others that bring you down. As much as this is not favorable, people will associate you with who you 9

13. Make you smile

Nothing is nicer in the world than having a smile spread across your cheeks.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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