As I was participating in my daily scroll through Cosmopolitan magazine's website, I came across a quiz aimed to determine what type of b*itch I am. I took it as I usually take all of these soul-telling quizzes when I'm bored. After receiving a grade of "You're a Secretly Nice B*tch," I couldn't help but think how especially ridiculous this quiz was for a number of reasons. And while it may just be a silly quiz to take for fun, the message it is sending to girls and women reading it -- that we're all bitches and we should want to act in such a way -- just does not seem right to me.
There is no choice.
This quiz doesn't offer a "nice" option. The grade I received is probably the best you can get if you wanted to feel somewhat good about yourself. It's a "pick your poison" kind of situation. It seems to say, "Sorry -- no matter what, you're still a b*tch." Simply in the headline, "What Type of B*tch Are You?" it is claiming that we are all b*tches, just of different kinds.
Idolizing bad people.
Would you actually want to be Regina George? What about Blair Waldorf? Both girls are known for their b*tchiness. These two are the faces of this quiz.
But remember how Regina's friends all talked about her and how Cady Heron literally did everything in her power to sabotage the "head b*tch"? No one would actually want to be friends with someone who acted that way, no matter how much of a queen she thought she was.
Don't forget that by the end of "Mean Girls," Regina was hit by a bus. Karma's the real b*tch. So, I'll ask again, do you really want to be like either of them?
The questions.
The questions encourage lying, being obnoxious, acting like a princess, making rude comments and just generally treating others like crap. It pretty much completely goes against the Golden Rule we were all taught as kindergartners -- literally, five-year-olds -- to treat others the way you want to be treated.
It is approving the poor treatment of a waiter after he made a mistake, or a nasty comment to be made to someone who accidentally bumps into you on the sidewalk. Maybe that person on the sidewalk was running late, or just got word of an emergency. Maybe that waiter just received bad news and had to work through his shift, or was just having a bad day.
We all make mistakes -- even b*tches (especially b*tches, as the entire way they act should be considered a mistake). It approves of us letting go of our humanity and empathy so that we can fit some ridiculous mold of a b*tchy character.
This may seem like a silly thing to get so worked up about, and I know that the quiz is meant for fun. But this quiz specifically only mentioned bad behaviors that would make most people shake their heads if encountered by a person engaging in them. It made me think of the kind of culture we live in today. We live in the type of society where being flat out rude and mean and going against everything we were taught is encouraged. Sure, the way Regina George acts is funny at times and she may seem like the Queen Bee, but it's a movie -- pretend -- and no one should actually act that way.
I don't see why anyone would want to be loved on the surface and hated beneath. I don't see why a liberal women's magazine -- that often writes against women acting like b*tches to each other -- would teach this behavior to readers and make it seem like the "cool" way to be. Do we really need more mean girls in the world? No.