What To Expect When You’re In A Long Distance Relationship

What To Expect When You’re In A Long Distance Relationship

It’s a marathon, not a sprint.

This one goes out to anyone who has ever been in a long distance relationship, has ever considered being in one, is currently one half of one, and the guy who makes mine worthwhile. My heart goes out to you.

Now, in honor of Valentine's Day, I thought I would write about how I make something as daunting as a long distance relationship work for me.

Whether you are one hour apart or half a world away, distance can be difficult to factor into a relationship. These are a couple of things I picked up on after doing long distance for a year and a half which I would expect to carry over into most other long distance relationships.

For starters, having an open discussion about whether or not distance will be manageable for both of you is a necessity. Having the ability to clearly communicate is even more important than it would be in a normal relationship. When you eliminate physical interactions due to a lack of proximity, your words and actions are what you must rely on to keep the love alive. Talking about where things are headed is scary, but it’s a conversation to have sooner rather than later. It truly puts you at ease once this conversation has been put to rest.

Once you've determined that long distance is the right move for you, the next thing you can do is throw any expectations you may have had out the window and let the wind carry them off. A long distance relationship is really different from one where you live five minutes away from your S/O, and it will change accordingly if either you or your partner need to move away. Anticipate things to go off the rails for a while because they will. But don’t worry. There’s an adjustment period, but you will adapt. Now I'm going to say it louder for those in the back:

Just because things don't transition smoothly doesn't mean that there is something wrong with your relationship.

As you adjust to the distance, remember that being able to set aside time to talk is incredibly important. However, not having a weekly schedule which is set in stone is the best possible thing if you are giving the long distance a try. While having the same plans once a week, every week to talk at 6 pm on Thursdays or watch a movie at 8 pm on Fridays might work for some, I feel that it’s best to avoid anything which could turn spending time with your absolute favorite person in the world into a chore.

Lastly, just because it’s long distance doesn’t mean you should feel lonely. A relationship is supposed to be a positive thing, and if long distance isn’t going to make you happy in the long run, you should really evaluate whether or not it’s the best thing for you.

This has been a very sincere thank you to the dude who managed to be both my best friend and my S/O and makes the long distance worth it.

Cover Image Credit: Pexels

Popular Right Now

21 Reasons You Should Date Someone Who Was A Camp Counselor

Spouse and parent material, all wrapped up in an animal shirt, Nike shorts, and Chacos.

1. They shop at Goodwill mostly... low maintenance you could say?

SEE ALSO: The ABC's Of Summer Camp

2. They are pretty awesome at talking to parents... opening days have given good practice for them. Give them 15 minutes and they will become best friends with your parents.

3. Their best friends actually are long distance...so you can wait a while to meet their besties who will want to know everything about you and make sure your intentions are good.

4. They have learned how to look decently presentable without showering for a week... maybe two...you may or may not like this one.

5. They are always down for adventure... sure let's hike for eight miles uphill in the middle of the week!

6. They know what it is like to be woken up at 2 a.m. because someone wet their bed... mom training.

7. They also know how to give the "modest is hottest" talk to the teenage campers... and will help give you a classy future daughter.

8. Building fires is their hidden talent... if you ever get stuck on a deserted island with them they can help you.

9. Animal shirts are a common clothing item... they know how to have fun.

10. They throw killer dance parties... ones your grandma would approve of.

11. They are used to being publicly embarrassed for others (their campers') enjoyment... and usually can take a joke or prank well.

12. They also know how to prank you back... summer camp prepares you for awesome prank wars.

13. If you want to see her with no makeup on just look at her camp photos... natural beauty?

14. They actually love children... they chose to spend a whole summer loving other people's kids; imagine how awesome they will treat their own.

15. Chances are they are a really fun person and will bring out your inner child... yes, climb that random tree and paint your face because it is Wednesday.

16. Their "real job" will come later in life... they will end up being successful. Most employers love to hire former counselors, so it is not a waste of a summer.

17. They know how to hide their favorites in life really well... so if they choose to date you they are basically saying you are their favorite and that is a big deal to them.

18. They have learned how to eat unhealthy food every day for a whole summer and stay in shape... or try to at least.

19. They also are obviously not a diva when it comes to material needs...they went a whole summer without even air conditioning and never complained.

20. If they love you anything like they love their campers your needs will always be put first...they are some of the most selfless people you will ever meet.

21. They love God, living for Him, and have already made a difference in many children's lives... they are the real MVPS.

If you are still looking for a place to work this summer and love adventure, Jesus, and children, apply for Camp Crestridge for Girls; they still have many positions available. I'll be there so you should too!

If you are a boy apply for Camp Ridgecrest for Boys!

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

10 Fascinating Adult Playgrounds In The U.S.

Who said adults can't have fun?


There are a lot of things in the world we don't realize we can do. Here is a list of things I found to exist that I thought would be interesting to visit someday. From amazing picture opportunities, to thrills, to just hanging out- adult playgrounds exist and we should definitely check them out.

1. The Dream Machine

The Dream Machine is basically an Instagram playground based off of dreams turned into a reality! They have multiple rooms for the perfect aesthetically pleasing photo op!

2. Dig This

Dig This is basically a construction machinery playground for everyone 14 years and older. You can dig holes, throw tires, and drive around. Who wouldn't want to try it?

3. Smash Shack

Do you ever feel like smashing your plates? Or smashing a photo of your ex? Here's the place to do it! anything fragile, you can throw at a wall. Relieve the frustration!

4. VooDoo Authentica

This voodoo shop will let you create a doll and relieve some anger. If you want to relax by buying a doll, smelling candles, or knowing your future, this is the perfect place.

5. Lavatory

The Lavatory is a huge adult ball pit which they call "The Pit". You can take photos in the pit and in the photo booths they have. This is a perfect addition to a night out.

6. 29 Rooms

This is a women's media company based on storytelling. 29rooms is basically a really cool interactive museum that you can take great pictures in while learning about it's history.

7. Happy Go Lucky

This is an interactive exhibit that has eight rooms each with a different theme. From mirrors to giant sea shells to vibrant gardens. Happy Go Lucky is another perfect place for aesthetic photo ops!

8. Mega Cavern

Mega Cavern has zip lines, challenging rope courses, and a bike park with 45 different trails. Oh, and its completely underground. Zip lining underground seems to bring more of a thrill than above ground zip lining- but it's all part of the fun!

9. Watson Adventures

Gather clues as you go on scavenger hunts around the city! Watson Adventures is a scavenger hunt company that will have you hunting and enjoying the locations you hunt in. This brings a new way to enjoy a city!

10. Boston's Lawn on D

This was created as an experimental outdoor space and proves to be successful. There are tons of outdoor games like frisbee, cornhole, ping-pong, and anything else you might want to play. They also have swings and live music. This is the perfect place to spend a relaxing day outside!

Related Content

Facebook Comments