So many people have the misconception that they haveto have their significant other in their life before they can be healed or complete or even before they can be beneficial in some way. As if their sole reason for existing and purpose in life is nothing until that other person shows up. However, it actually is okay to enjoy your season of singleness and enjoy it without vigorously searching for or impatiently waiting on your “other half”.

1. Your life and reason for living doesn’t begin at marriage.
Your life and reason for living begins long before marriage. In fact, your reason for living began before you were even born, for God hand-knit you in your mother’s womb and gave you a purpose before your parents even knew about you. I can assure you that your purpose does not say, “Wait until marriage before you try to be useful.” God can and wants to use you now. Being single truly is a gift from God. During your season of singleness, you can minister to other single people; you can win souls for the Kingdom and disciple younger Christians. You can work on yourself and grow your roots deeper in God’s love. The possibilities of what you can do for the Kingdom of God before you're married are endless.

2. If you still have hurt in your life, what makes you think that a marriage is going to fix that?
God is the only one who can heal you, set you free, and deliver you. While you’re single you have the amazing privilege and opportunity to focus solely on God. When you’re in a marriage, your life isn’t just you and God anymore. It’s you, God, and that other person. Although marriage is both wonderful and a gift from God, it isn’t always easy. Bringing pain and problems into a marriage before allowing God to heal and deliver you from them beforehand can make things more difficult for you and your spouse.

3. You can develop your prayer life and relationship with God before marriage.
Speaking from the perspective a single, Christian girl; I have expectations that my future husband has to meet before he can actually become my future husband. Those expectations include loving God more than he will ever love me, obeying the commandments and the Word of God, and having his own prayer life and personal relationship with God. If I am asking someone else to meet these expectations, then I need to be able to meet them, too. What better time to develop the relationship and habits I want than when I am single and only have my relationship with God to work on. Build a life with God before you try to build one with another person. Allow your relationship with God to be the foundation of your life, so whatever you build on top of it will be built on solid rock and will not crumple and fall when the first storm comes.