What You Should Know Before Going Greek

What You Should Know Before Going Greek

Think about it before going Greek

It Is Expensive

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that people that go Greek, “pay for their friends”. The reason for that is because we have this lovely thing called dues. Dues is basically a fee that a sorority/fraternity member pays in order to maintain the well being of his or her chapter as well as the entire sorority/fraternity organization.

Along with dues, you pay for things like big/little gifts. The big little relationship is something a lot of people know about sororities/fraternities and is by far one of the best part of joining. A big is supposed to be your best friend, mentor, and sometimes even your parent. If you have the best big in the world, which I do, you want to do and give them everything because you feel like you can never thank them enough for all that they’ve done for you. It is also the same with a little. Once you get a little, you want to give them everything because they are amazing and deserve the best.

Also, once you join you want to splurge on apparel and you’d prefer comfort colors to Gildan, which definitely can impact your bank account. Or you absolutely need that fifth tumbler that has your symbol on it because the other four you have are different colors than the one you have. Like I said, this stuff adds up.

Stereotype vs. Non-Stereotype

When you rush, you’ll meet the stereotypical Greek life people, but you’ll also meet people that are far from it. People join for different reasons, and sororities are all about meeting new people and creating bonds with those people. The stereotypical people may seem annoying but I promise when you get to know them, they won’t seem that bad.

It Is Not Just About The Sisterhood/Brotherhood

When I came out for my sorority, I didn’t want to at all, I did it because my friend didn’t want to go alone. When the girls did their spiel, they were talking about the philanthropy things they did which I LOVED. That was why I joined. There is more than just the bond that you create. You can truly make an impact by the things you do.

My sorority made winter care packages for our local public schools, which then granted me the opportunity to meet Deborah Phelps. We helped out her organization, so she invited a few sisters to a speaker series, which led us to networking, giving us all an experience we will never forget.

It Is Time Consuming

Between weekly meetings, philanthropy events, and other Greek affairs, it can be extremely time consuming. What a lot of people don’t know before joining Greek life is that is like any other club or commitment in college. You are going to have to dedicate a lot of your time in order to do the bare minimum.

The person responsible for making sure members attend events will do his or her best to work with a person’s schedule but it can get extremely difficult depending on how busy you are. Before you join, I would definitely consider and even ask when meetings are and how much time on a average a person spends on Greek life. With anything you do, you want to make sure you can give it your all, and you want to make sure you can do that when going Greek.

You Won’t Like Everyone

A lot of people think that when you go Greek you automatically have to hangout and like every single person. That is not true. You don’t have to like every member, but you do have to respect every member. There are a lot of different personalities within a sorority/fraternity, and it is inevitable for everyone to have their favorites and their not so favorites. The idea with this is though; they are still your sister/brother at the end of the day. So even though you may not like them, you are still obligated to treat him or her with respect.

Secret Secrets

Each Greek organization has their own secret rituals and traditions. If you are going Greek you must honor and respect that. When you accept your bid and are initiated, you are held accountable to keep those institutions private. What is the point of going through the recruitment process, getting in, just to share with others? It is like going through four grueling years of school to get your degree, and then someone else gets the same degree just by someone giving it to them. Respect your sorority/fraternity.

It Is What You Make It

Have you ever heard the phrase; “you get what you give”? Well, that philosophy also applies to the Greek life. If you are actively involved and have a positive attitude, then you will get a positive experience. If you do as little as you can, and complain the entire time, then of course you aren’t going to have fun. If you have an open mind when participating instead of looking at it as a chore, then you are giving yourself the opportunity to have a good time. If you go into a situation with a negative attitude, it is hard to leave with a positive attitude.

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Do What's Best For You, Even If It Hurts

Be selfish and put your happiness first.

Doing what is best for yourself is never easy because usually it hurts someone along the way.

Yes, I know this from experience and it sucks to say the least.

Past relationships have taught me that your happiness comes first, whether it be a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, a friendship, or even a relationship with a family member. Sometimes it’s good to not be selfish and sacrifice your own happiness for someone else but how can you make someone else happy when you’re not happy?

I’ve watched it happen MANY times, not to mention I’m talking from experience.

What’s best for you is what needs to be done, if you’re in a toxic relationship with someone who claims to “love you” then letting go of that relationship to grow as a person is what’s best, if they truly love you and if it’s truly meant to be, the universe will see it through.

The saying about setting something free and if it comes back to you then it was truly yours and if it doesn’t it was never yours to begin with is true here. Don’t let another human tell you how to live your life, do what YOU want. Realistically speaking it isn’t fair if you’re unhappy but the other person is happy. That isn’t healthy. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t want the best for you or doesn’t push you to be the best version of yourself.

Friendships can be tricky, sometimes you have those manipulative friends who want to see you fail. Sometimes you have those friends who are too immature to be in a healthy friendship and only want you to be their friend. I’ve not been close to anyone like this, but I have seen it happen. These are the people you need to distance yourself from, they’re toxic and will only cause conflict in your life.

Family who doesn’t want the best for you is a hard topic to tackle. They’re your family and they’re always supposed to love you right? This is true, but it can definitely make things difficult when what you want out of life is different from what your family wants for you out of life.

Disappointment is a big fear in life, but you have to do what you know is best for you even if that means letting your loved ones down. Because success doesn’t come easy and it isn’t cheap, in the end your family will understand your decisions.

My biggest family dispute was my decision on college, only one family member supported my decision to go away for college, everyone else was against it. But now that I’m here, doing well, everyone is proud of me and happy for me, I couldn’t let them cloud my judgment when making one of the biggest decisions of my life.

The moral of the story is to do what is best for you, no matter if it hurts or upsets someone. If you’re not happy at the end of the day, then you’re doing something wrong. Be selfish for once in your life. Don’t let someone cloud your judgment because they think they know what is best, only you know what’s best for you.

But why? Why is it that other people expect you to put their happiness first? I will never understand this way of thinking and I refuse to break my back to comprehend the ignorance, but I do encourage everyone to sit back and look at how others influence their lives and if it’s a positive or a negative influence.

Be your own person, the only people you have to answer to is yourself and god. Be strong and move forward because the world won’t wait on you and everyone who negatively affects your life will eventually leave too. So be you.

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I stole this idea from my sister but for an option more directed towards little boys, making masks out of cardboard is perfect for a group of rowdy boys! They can have fun creating the masks and play with them afterwards.

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