What You Should Know Before Going Greek

What You Should Know Before Going Greek

Think about it before going Greek

It Is Expensive

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that people that go Greek, “pay for their friends”. The reason for that is because we have this lovely thing called dues. Dues is basically a fee that a sorority/fraternity member pays in order to maintain the well being of his or her chapter as well as the entire sorority/fraternity organization.

Along with dues, you pay for things like big/little gifts. The big little relationship is something a lot of people know about sororities/fraternities and is by far one of the best part of joining. A big is supposed to be your best friend, mentor, and sometimes even your parent. If you have the best big in the world, which I do, you want to do and give them everything because you feel like you can never thank them enough for all that they’ve done for you. It is also the same with a little. Once you get a little, you want to give them everything because they are amazing and deserve the best.

Also, once you join you want to splurge on apparel and you’d prefer comfort colors to Gildan, which definitely can impact your bank account. Or you absolutely need that fifth tumbler that has your symbol on it because the other four you have are different colors than the one you have. Like I said, this stuff adds up.

Stereotype vs. Non-Stereotype

When you rush, you’ll meet the stereotypical Greek life people, but you’ll also meet people that are far from it. People join for different reasons, and sororities are all about meeting new people and creating bonds with those people. The stereotypical people may seem annoying but I promise when you get to know them, they won’t seem that bad.

It Is Not Just About The Sisterhood/Brotherhood

When I came out for my sorority, I didn’t want to at all, I did it because my friend didn’t want to go alone. When the girls did their spiel, they were talking about the philanthropy things they did which I LOVED. That was why I joined. There is more than just the bond that you create. You can truly make an impact by the things you do.

My sorority made winter care packages for our local public schools, which then granted me the opportunity to meet Deborah Phelps. We helped out her organization, so she invited a few sisters to a speaker series, which led us to networking, giving us all an experience we will never forget.

It Is Time Consuming

Between weekly meetings, philanthropy events, and other Greek affairs, it can be extremely time consuming. What a lot of people don’t know before joining Greek life is that is like any other club or commitment in college. You are going to have to dedicate a lot of your time in order to do the bare minimum.

The person responsible for making sure members attend events will do his or her best to work with a person’s schedule but it can get extremely difficult depending on how busy you are. Before you join, I would definitely consider and even ask when meetings are and how much time on a average a person spends on Greek life. With anything you do, you want to make sure you can give it your all, and you want to make sure you can do that when going Greek.

You Won’t Like Everyone

A lot of people think that when you go Greek you automatically have to hangout and like every single person. That is not true. You don’t have to like every member, but you do have to respect every member. There are a lot of different personalities within a sorority/fraternity, and it is inevitable for everyone to have their favorites and their not so favorites. The idea with this is though; they are still your sister/brother at the end of the day. So even though you may not like them, you are still obligated to treat him or her with respect.

Secret Secrets

Each Greek organization has their own secret rituals and traditions. If you are going Greek you must honor and respect that. When you accept your bid and are initiated, you are held accountable to keep those institutions private. What is the point of going through the recruitment process, getting in, just to share with others? It is like going through four grueling years of school to get your degree, and then someone else gets the same degree just by someone giving it to them. Respect your sorority/fraternity.

It Is What You Make It

Have you ever heard the phrase; “you get what you give”? Well, that philosophy also applies to the Greek life. If you are actively involved and have a positive attitude, then you will get a positive experience. If you do as little as you can, and complain the entire time, then of course you aren’t going to have fun. If you have an open mind when participating instead of looking at it as a chore, then you are giving yourself the opportunity to have a good time. If you go into a situation with a negative attitude, it is hard to leave with a positive attitude.

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Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

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17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

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I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

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Photoshop, Filters And #WokeUpLikeThis Proves That Instagram’s Platform Advocates Deception Without Even Meaning To

Is your life on instagram depicted the same way it is in reality?


Do you ever scroll through your Instagram and get aggravated by how amazing the pictures are? Or get aggravated by how perfect the people are….. Or how joyful the people seem to be in the pictures displayed? All these questions build up and make you wonder why your life isn't as cheerful as those figures seen on social media. Well, every time I view Instagram on my devices, all I see are perfect images and perfect moments captured. I often wonder why MY life isn't as impeccable and why I'm am not having as terrific of a time as the pictures seem to portray.

Thoughts bubble up in me, and I find myself asking: is this how everyone really feels, or is it just me?

I've come to the conclusion that people who post cheerful and seemingly admirable pictures on social media are the ones who are deceiving themselves and fooling me along with. If the moment was so tremendous, why was there a phone out? If the moment was so wonderful, why did they choose to take a picture of it instead of immersing themselves at the moment? Was it certainly a perfect time? No. Then it genuinely wasn't the time of your life.

The picture seeks to depict the time as perfect, but that wasn't what actually occurred. In reality, the people would have been crying or just sitting around the whole time, but in that exact split second of the picture, they were able to display a flawless image that people who scroll through Instagram desire to experience with their friends.

After experiencing moments that people capture on a mobile device at parties and casual hangouts, I have come to a realization that not only do people deceive others by faking happiness on social media, but they also deceive others into thinking their life is outstanding. In that picture perfect moment, it wasn't as joyful and valuable as it seemed to be.

The only thing they did was take pictures to depict a favorable time, but was it REALLY a breathtaking occasion or did you just take pictures to make it seem as if you did? The picture was taken to allow others to view it as the best time ever and have others believe you had fun. You would definitely say it was fun, but in reality, all you did was take pictures to make it seem fun.

It is insane to think about the countless times a person goes through their feed feeling upset about their life by simply viewing someone's picture and assuming they are having "the time of their life." They don't even think about how the amazing picture is, but the moment wasn't.

This must come to an end. Though some people would argue and say they want to share aesthetic and pretty pictures on their social media, Instagram isn't for this. The purpose for Instagram is to post pictures with friends and family along with funny memes to keep Instagram lively, though Instagram isn't being used in this context. People need to essentially begin living in the moment instead of worrying about getting an Instagram picture. It isn't worth the hassle.

If you aren't truly having fun in life then what do you have to show off? Why not genuinely enjoy the moment, and worry about capturing a picture or two later? It is crazy to think about how people only care about how others view them. They don't care about how they view themselves or whether they are fulfilling their happiness. This society is definitely based on a sense of belonging, of being accepted into the community.

At the same time, people viewing these images begin to lose self-esteem because of the flawless group of friends they see on their Instagram feed. The thought of making yourself happy and enjoying the moment is diminishing as people begin to deceive their happiness. So, let me ask again: is the fun shown on Instagram reality, or is it just a deceptive fantasy?

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