There's a lot of people out there who are good at love.

They play the game well, always get what they want and end up happily ever after. But then there's the rest of us, well me and about a billion other women anyways. We don't know how to love.

But know this:

1. We never had any good examples.

Our parents are most likely divorced if they're even still around. And you're probably thinking, what does her baggage have to do with the way she feels? Well, guess what? The first people who "loved" each other that we knew went up in flames. Poof. It got ugly right? How do you learn to show affection when you've never seen any?

2. We don't like just anybody.

Seriously? Do you think any guy could just waltz up and make us giddy? You should feel special. Thank you for being the person you are.

3. We have walls.

They call us ice queens. We can control our emotions very well, and we build some of the best walls. We won't open up to you until you have shown us that you deserve to see that part of us. And unless you're certain you can handle us exposed, don't ask us to take down the walls we worked so hard to build.

4. We are givers.

This. Just this, going back to an earlier discussion. We aren't very good at showing affection so we give. We try to make you happy. Don't take advantage of that.

5. We take no shit.

If you even get the idea that walking all over us is a good idea and we will know. We read people like that. We stand up for ourselves, it's part of having that wall up.

6. We are worth it.

I know the extra effort is a little annoying. You'll have to be patient with us. But our love is a love of a different kind, something that no one has experienced. Who wouldn't want that?