Everyone has seen at least one romantic comedy movie, where the actor or actress loses the love of his or her life. We’ve all seen a show where a character pines for a forbidden love, but what these movies and shows don’t tell you is how much it really hurts to lose someone.

1. Heartbreak literally feels like you’re dying.

I’ve been heartbroken twice in my life, and each time it’s just more painful. The most recent time, my ex broke up with me out of the blue over the phone. I felt hopeless and worthless, and it literally made my heart hurt. You won’t be able to focus for days.

2. You may have been there for them, but they won’t be there for you.

I have a habit of constantly being available for the ones I love. I would move mountains for people to make their day a little bit better, but no one’s willing to do the same for me when I need them. You could be there for them through thick and thin, and drop everything to go see them, but they won’t even return your calls or texts.

3. Overthinking can make you sick.

No matter how hard you try to prevent it, there will be days when you find yourself up at 3 a.m. overanalyzing everything about what happened in your relationship. It’ll make you feel sick to your stomach and there are days where you literally won’t be able to eat.

4. There will be days where you may hate yourself.

I never wanted to be that girl who completely loses it over a boy, but I did. People make it seem like it’s the worst thing in the world to be completely head over heels for someone, and they expect you to be fine when it doesn’t work out. That only makes it worse. You start to believe what they say, and hate yourself for not being able to move on quickly. You think you’re overreacting and that you’re the one to blame for being emotional.

5. You probably won’t get back together.

I’m unfortunately a hopeless romantic. I’m a sucker for sappy romantic stories, and when I’m in a relationship, I’m in it for the possibility of that person being “the one.” I grew up watching Disney movies where they always find their true love, and when I started high school I started "Gossip Girl." I base my life on being Blair Waldorf, so naturally I’m searching for my Chuck Bass. Chuck and Blair went through much more than the average couple, and granted it is a show, but (SPOILER ALERT) because they constantly got back together and eventually married, I can’t help hope for the same thing. But unfortunately, I don’t live on the Upper East Side.